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If You Aren’t Crazy About Me, Then Leave Me Alone – I Refuse To Be A Second Choice

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I’ve been the second choice before. I’ve been the girl that someone just settled for because they couldn’t have the person that they really wanted. Let me tell you that being that person was one of the worst experiences of my life. Although I loved my significant other, I always knew that they didn’t care about me as much as I deserved.

That’s an experience that I am not willing to relive anytime soon, no matter what. So, if you aren’t crazy about me, then leave me alone – I refuse to be a second choice.

Love is a Two-Way Street

Both people need to be on the same page from the very beginning of the relationship. What’s the point in giving all of your love to someone if they’re only going to give you half of theirs in return?

Honestly, there is no point in it and it’s destined to end up in complete failure.

I’m not going to spend my time on you if all you’re going to do is daydream about the girl you couldn’t have. Relationships are an investment and it’s one that I can’t make on my own. You need to put in some effort to. Otherwise, it’s all for nothing.

I’m Not A Replacement Girlfriend

Okay, I get it, you couldn’t have the girl that you thought was your soulmate. If you’re so distraught about it then maybe you should stay single until you find someone you care about just as much. Don’t just fill the void with someone else that you could never care about as much.

You may not see it this way, but I know that I can be someone else’s first choice.

One day someone is going to come along who loves me for me and isn’t just using me as a replacement. That’s the relationship that I’m waiting for.

So, don’t waste my time and yours by trying to settle for me.

I Deserve More Than That

Although you might not really understand the damage you’re doing by settling for me, it’s there. Being someone’s second choice destroys your self-confidence and makes you feel completely worthless. Most of all, it makes you feel like no one is ever going to truly love you. I know that I don’t deserve that.

Unlike you, I don’t feel the need to settle for someone. I know my own worth and I know that I deserve more than some phony relationship. Because of that, I’m happy to stay single until I find someone who’s worthy of my love. When I find them, I know that I’m going to be their priority and the person they love most, not just some fallback option.

If you want to waste your time in fake relationships because you couldn’t have “the one” then go ahead. You can pretend that you’re happy with that life all you want but I won’t have any part of it. I’m not the kind of girl that you settle for, I’m the kind of girl that you choose every day.

To all the people out there who have been someone’s second choice, just know that you’re worth more than that. Your worth the love of someone who wants no one else but you.

Eva Jackson