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If He Is Not Willing To Put In The Effort, He Can’t Be Worthy Of Your Time

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Have you ever been in a relationship when you were giving your heart and soul to make it work while your partner was staying idle, not willing to reciprocate even a little bit?

Have you ever been desperately waiting on someone to prove their love for you? Have you waited for someone to change knowing that they will never be able to love you the way you deserve to be loved instead of letting them go?

If you are also guilty of investing all your time and energy on someone who wasn’t doing the same for you, you know that they are not worthy of your time and effort.

I know I have, and I can assure you it’s the worst. Being with a man who constantly tells you how much he loves you, but doesn’t do anything for you, is devastating. He acts like he doesn’t give a damn about you, but at the same time, he doesn’t let you go.

He keeps excusing himself to you, calls you, begs you to forgive him, and says he will change. And you believe them. But instead of actions, all you are left with are fake words and promises.

The truth is, if he behaves like he doesn’t care a bit about you – believe him. Because apparently, he doesn’t.

Forget everything he is telling you. Forget all the false words he is using you to lure you back into his life. Don’t believe the “hope” he is giving you. He is fooling you into thinking that he will change.

Instead, watch his deeds. Watch what he is giving to the relationship. Because the thing is, the energy he is putting in the relationship equals his interest and his feelings for you.

I hate to break it to you, but if he is not making the effort to make your relationship better – he could care less for you.

You don’t deserve to be treated like that. He doesn’t deserve to have a place in your life. Please, don’t waste your time and energy trying to revive something that is long dead.

No one should wait for a person to come to their senses and choose them. No one should care for someone who is lying to them and leads them on. No one should give their all to someone who doesn’t even want to give their half.

Know your worth and don’t let anyone treat you as replaceable. Don’t put first the one who keeps telling you they don’t have time for you.

Don’t choose him. Choose yourself. Focus on your worth and shift the love you give to him onto you. Don’t waste your time, emotions, and energy on people who will never reciprocate your effort.

You are not the second best thing. You deserve to be someone’s first choice. You deserve someone who will love you with all their heart.

Therefore, stop settling for less. Stop holding onto someone who refuses to be held. Move on and find your happiness elsewhere.

Mary Wright