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I Wouldn’t Have To Waste My Energy Over-Analyzing Men’s Behavior If They Were Acting Normal


I’ve been told that I’m an overthinker.

That all my life, the only thing I’ve done consistently was over-analyzing men’s behavior.  That this trait of mine is probably the reason why I find it hard to understand modern dating. And that my actions are preventing me from finding a real relationship.

Would you be surprised if I told you that some of my friends have even told me that my expectations are too high?

Of course, some of you wouldn’t be, because I know for a fact that I am not alone in this.

Tell me, how can I not over-think guys’ behavior when most of them cannot even behave like normal human beings?

Just yesterday I was on the phone with my best friend who was devastated because she realized that her boyfriend of 1 year ghosted on her and he’s nowhere to be found. I mean, come on.

You engage in a relationship with someone, you do everything for them, and you give your best to let them know how honest your intentions are. And what do you get in return? You end up ghosted, miserable and alone. On top of it, you feel stupid because you cannot explain all of that to yourself. You simply cannot find closure.

 Oh, and, what about that sick habit of hiding your honest emotions or opinions?

Modern dating makes me want to give up on everything and just leave. There were times when we didn’t hesitate to ask someone how they feel, and we weren’t afraid, to be honest about our emotions. Those were the good days.

Nowadays, everything is just a part of a sick, immature game. The less you give a damn, the more attractive you look. The more you care, the more desperate you are.

Has everyone lost their puny minds?

Believe me, if it wasn’t for this brutal, heartless society that is teaching people how to shut off their hearts and repress every single emotion inside of them, I wouldn’t have to waste my time over-analyzing immature men. If people could only learn the meaning of the words empathy and respect, things would have been much better and much easier for all of us.

The reason why I’m constantly over-analyzing guys’ behavior is not because I like doing that. It is because I simply cannot help it. My mind is the only thing that provides me with a certain logical explanation of most men’s behavior. It is the only thing I can rely on.

I don’t want to be called only at 12 am. I don’t want to be on your speed dial for a booty call. I don’t want you to chase me just because you want to get laid. I don’t want you to play hard-to-get with me. I don’t want to wait days for you to reply. I don’t want to feel unwanted. I don’t want to wonder whether you like me or not. I don’t want to feel like I am a burden to you. I don’t want to be left in the dark. I don’t want to play your stupid games!

What I want is to live in a world where I wouldn’t have to waste my energy on overthinking whether someone likes me or they’re simply trying to get me in the sack.

I don’t ask for much. All I need is a kind word, honesty, humility, kisses, respect, empathy, fresh roses, big garden, righteousness, and sheltering arms. But, above all, to love and be loved in return.

Stephanie Reeds