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I Learned The Hard Way That Not Everything Is Worthy Of My Response


The reality is that not many things deserve our response and engagement.

We have the power to decide on what things we want to engage ourselves in. It’s up to us to guard our emotions and our energy and not waste it on things or people or things that drain us and are toxic to our well-being.

As I’ve gotten older and walked the path towards finding my happiness, I realized that I’ve spent so much time on people that didn’t deserve a bit of me and my energy.

I learned that the recipe for happiness is not allowing anyone near you who is going to disturb your peace and being very selective of to whom you’ll offer your time and attention.

I learned the hard way that not everything deserves my response.

I learned the hard way that I don’t have to go out of my way for someone who is not willing to do the same for me.

I learned the hard way that I don’t have to react to everything that happens around me. I don’t have to contradict anyone who doesn’t agree with my views or does something that upsets me.

I also learned that if someone doesn’t want to be a part of my life anymore, they are free to go. They won’t have my reaction to their leaving.

I learned to stop complaining about other people and how they choose to live their life.

I learned that I don’t have to express my unhappiness and dissatisfaction about every little thing.

I learned that I don’t have to respond to every call or text if I don’t feel like it.

I learned that I don’t have to explain myself and my actions to everyone.

I don’t have to bother with what other people think about me.

I don’t have to be kind to people who have hurt me. I learned that ignoring them is the best response to their behavior.

Because the truth is, we all need to realize our power and understand that we should love ourselves enough to not let anyone or anything disturb our harmony and peace within ourselves.

We must defend our inner peace every time. And we must do it by ignoring anything that doesn’t feel good to us.

So, be the bada** you need to be and become the ultimate creator of your happiness.

Choose to remain silent and don’t offer your attention so easily. Because silence is indeed power.  

Mary Wright