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I Know It Hurts, But When A Loved One Decides You’re Not The One, You Move On

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Heartbreaks, losses, breakups… They’re all inevitable parts of life.

Most of the time they happen when we least expect it. You go through life thinking that you’ve got it all and then BAM! Suddenly something hits you too hard and it feels like your whole world, everything that you’ve built, everything that you fought for is now crashed into tiny pieces and turned into ashes.

Nothing is more painful and gut-wrenching than ending a relationship.

Except maybe realizing that your partner’s feelings about you are changed and there’s no going back… That experience right there is probably one of the most soul-shattering moments in life. Knowing that you are no longer the one is a hard pill to swallow, but the truth is, there is nothing we can really do about it.

 I know it hurts like hell, but when someone decides to cut you us off and erase you from their life, find a way to accept it and… Move on.

Have respect for yourself enough to simply back off and focus on your life. Say everything you have to say. Scream, shout, cry, make yourself clear, but don’t hang around, don’t look back, and don’t let the sorrow take you down the gutter. Get a hold of yourself and continue doing what you were doing.

Don’t put the blame on yourself. Don’t convince yourself that you’re the reason for this devastation. Instead, find a way to comprehend their decision and understand that it was never about you.

When someone says they don’t love you any more or you’re not right for them, that’s what that statement means. It’s not because you’re unlovable or not good enough. It means that they no longer need your presence in their life. And as much as it sounds selfish, it’s one door is closing and thousands of others opening at the same time.

I know it is painful, but when someone decides you’re not the one for them, be brave to let them go.

Love yourself enough to stop chasing after someone who decided to part ways with you. I know that your heart is wounded, and your ego is bleeding, but let this be a closure to you.

Be strong enough to control the urges that force you to get back to the place you once called home. Don’t give in to your weakness. They made themselves very clear, you’re not the right for them. So, maybe that’s true. You may not be right for them and they might not be the one for you.

You may cry, wonder how insensitive people can be, scream your lungs out and grieve, but the reality won’t change itself.

Save your dignity and protect yourself from going after the things that are not meant for you. More importantly, preserve your energy. If that relationship was meant to survive, you would have ended up together.

So, please don’t let this intimidate you from searching for your source of happiness. You will never know what life has in store for you.

When a person decides that you’re simply not the one for them, make sure to let go of everything that connects you with them, and focus on yourself instead.

Don’t waste your precious time and energy on people who are no longer worth it. Don’t spend your life fixing relationships that will never make it through. Don’t bother gluing up a glass vase that has always been broken. That’s gone. It’s shattered. The glass turned into aches and faded away.

Your business there is finished. You can say whatever you feel like, but at the end of the day, the decision they make will depend on them.

So, please. Have respect for yourself to let it all go and let life be. I promise that very soon you’ll understand how big of a blessing this is to you. You are now hurt and blind to the truth, but pretty soon you’ll realize that you’re stronger than you thought.

It’s painful as hell, but when someone decides you’re not the one, you have to move on.

You have one life to live, so please don’t waste in vain.

Stephanie Reeds