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I Don’t You Need You To Save Me: I Want A Life Partner Who Will Support Me

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Do you really think that the only thing women need in life is to be saved by men?

It is truly disappointing and to be honest, quite annoying how the majority of people seem to think that women don’t have what it takes to face life on their own. But, hey! I get it. That is what you’ve all been taught as kids.

That men are the protectors and providers and the women are the caretakers. That women will always be the gentler gender, and men the stronger. That we are from Venus and they are from Mars.

Well, I’ll be damned, but I will no longer play these games. I will no longer be silent.

This has been going on for quite a long time. Long enough for women to start thinking that finding a man is the most important thing in life. Long enough for men to start claiming that a woman’s place is in the kitchen. Long enough for me to pretend that I am okay with it.

I, for one, don’t need a man in my life!

I choose to be with one.

That is why the first thing I look for in a man is respect.

I don’t need a partner to solve my problems, pay my bills, carry me on his back, protect me and make my life complete. I already do that on my own. In fact, I’ve been doing it my whole life. And it seems to me that I’ve done a pretty good job.

It is simple. I don’t need a partner to save me. I don’t need a strong, brave knight on a white horse to take me and make my troubles go away. I don’t need Prince Charming to show me the way. I never liked those stupid fairytales anyway.

Need is not the operative word here.

What I WANT is an equal partner who will accept me for who I am, love every flawed part of myself and support every step of the way. That’s right. The only thing I want in this life is love. Unconditional, free, everlasting, pure, all-consuming, passionate, wild love.

I want a friend. A person who will be able to look me in the eyes and tell me the truth, no matter how much it might hurt me. A person who won’t hesitate to tell me when I’m making a mistake. A person who will genuinely love me for who I am, not for who they want me to be.

I want a life partner. Someone who will always be there to support me – but not financially. I am talking about mental and emotional support. I want a partner who will gladly talk to me about everything that makes my eyes sparkle. Someone who will not be intimidated by my dreams. Someone who will encourage me to never give up on my passions.

I want a lover. A man with whom I’ll create an unbreakable bond. A connection so pure and so strong that no one and nothing would ever be able to break it. A relationship in which we’ll both give our best efforts to create the life that we want. A love that we will both cherish and nurture for all eternity.

I will never ever settle for something less than this.

I don’t need a man who will rescue me from this cruel world. I want a partner who will hold my hand and believe in me that I am strong enough to do that on my own.

Stephanie Reeds