Guys get it through your head! We are not looking for Prince Charming. We don’t really need you to have killer abs. We just want you to be kind and respectful.
It’s really that simple.
Let me tell you a little story that still sparks a fire inside my heart whenever I recall it.
I can still feel the butterflies in my stomach from that particular night. The memory is so vivid in my mind, it feels like it was only yesterday.
He was the biggest crush my heart ever remembered. The man who stole my heart by only looking into my eyes. I don’t know how that happened exactly, because that was the first time I actually felt love at first sight. And it was just like in the movies.
Anyhow, shortly after our first encounter, he asked me on a date. I don’t remember feeling that nervous and exciting ever since my second-grade crush kissed me on my cheek. But, I somehow managed to pull myself together. So, I dolled myself up the best that I could because I wanted him to see the best version of myself. I wore my new heels, my favorite silk dress and I felt amazing.
He was there waiting for me in front of my favorite café, smiling at me as I came closer. He was a 6ft tall, chubby looking guy who had piercings on both of his ears, long, thick beard and a bald head. And, boy, was I into him…
We had the most amazing time that night, but I could literally see his anxiety everywhere around us. I could see that he was trying really hard to be his best self, but it was too obvious that was intimidated by me. Even though his goofy jokes made me burst out of laughter, I somehow felt that he thought he was not good enough for me.
All I wanted to do at that moment was hug him and tell him that he is amazing. Just the way he is. I wanted to grab his arm and tell him that I really don’t care about anything other than his beautiful soul and charming personality. I wanted to let him know that I did not care about his hair, that I did not give a damn about how others look at us and that I liked him exactly for who he was. Ridiculously awkward, politically incorrect and bald.
So, there you go. I’m not looking for Brad Pitt. I don’t need a handsome knight on a white horse to sweep me off my feet. The only thing I need is a kind, honest and humble man. A person who would know exactly how to make me smile, someone who would love me for who I am. An ordinary guy whose values would align mine.
If I wanted to find Mr. Perfect, I would have probably let some superficial, male model douchebag into my life by now. I would have gotten one without thinking twice.
But the truth is, looks have never been important to me the way inner beauty is. That is why I don’t need a Prince Charming. I want a simple, kind and an honest guy who would do everything to show me that he is into me. Someone who would accept me for who I am and make an effort to make me smile.
And lucky me, I already found him. He may not be perfect to some of you, but he possesses the greatest heart I’ve ever seen and that is more than I could ever ask for.