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Here’s Why Empaths Have A Strong Sense Of Not Belonging


Why is that that almost every empath feels like they are living in a reality in which they don’t belong? They cannot seem to find their place in this world. It’s like they are always trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Impossible. Why does this happen? Why are empaths always feeling like they don’t belong?

They go through life and notice other people who are trying to make the best out of their lives – they follow the rules imposed on them by society, and they seem to be happy with the way this system operates, and they never question anything, even when they are dissatisfied.

Why can others feel satisfied with their life and ‘fit in’ into the society, and empaths can’t? There are several reasons for this.

If you consider the main trait of every empath – their ability to feel everything and experience other people’s emotions as their own – you may falsely think that they can connect to everyone and everything around them, but sadly, that is not the case.

Empaths can always tell when someone is sad, angry, or nervous. They can feel every lie and know when someone is pretending to be someone they are not. They can feel and understand both the good and the bad emotions of others, but that does not mean that they agree with them or accept them.

Even though they empathize and understand everyone, empaths remain still as alienated as ever. And most empaths will only realize how sensitive they truly are after experiencing an intense awakening after surviving difficult times.

And because of these epiphanies, empaths often don’t know how to deal with their emotions and the emotions of others. They may find themselves suddenly overwhelmed, exhausted and feeling ‘weird.’ Then, their need to spend more time alone and isolate themselves from everyone emerges to the surface thus intensifying, even more, their sense of not belonging.

Even though empaths may not see it at times, but those dark times are there to challenge them and to set them apart from the ordinary world. It is because of the bad experiences that they get such a deep ‘understanding’ of the world and become better people.

Empaths’ feeling of not belonging is their defense mechanism that is keeping them from remaining the same.

Because they are not meant to stand still and do nothing. They are always moving forward, learning, and experiencing new things. And while they are searching for their place in the world, they are already finding new ways to better themselves. They become more empathetic, healthier, and stronger!

What’s stopping them from achieving the sense of belonging is society. Society’s way of dictating how everyone should think, dress, act, or receive their education is wrong and is clashing with the empath’s uniqueness.  

That’s why every empath starts feeling insecure, and like they don’t belong.

They notice every lie, every manipulation that is imposed on them, but they are told they mustn’t react. This is why it is so hard to feel ‘right’ in a society where nothing seems to be right and everything is wrong.

So, their strong sense of not belonging may be a feeling of not belonging to themselves.

So, it doesn’t matter if you don’t feel like you belong with the outside world, as long as you belong to yourself and are true to your needs. Don’t stop to believe and work on yourself. This is the only way you will find your inner peace and true place because you will find it in you.

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Mary Wright


  1. On empathy, my mom always thought I was a follower even though I never obey my parents. But I always connect with people and seemed to feed off of their feelings, activities… This article might describe me best but I’m having a hard time changing with my roommate, I love him but something needs to change. I’m just trying to get a guy to change from his addictions while he is potentially dieing. I’m just afraid of are relationship exploding.


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