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Enough With The Bullshit – I Want Someone Who Will F*cking Be There For Me


I don’t think that I am asking for too much. All I want is someone who will just f*cking be there for me.

This is not going to be about what a strong and independent woman I am. This is not going to be about me being a ferocious feminist who debates whether I need a man or not.

Because the reality is – I am tired. I am f*cking tired. I am tired of not having someone who will be there for me. Someone who will just f*cking show up for me and stay.

I want to be with someone who will show up for me in the mornings and the evenings. Someone I can build a life with. Someone who will lay in bed with me on a rainy morning. Someone with whom I can talk about everything without restrictions.

Because of course, adventure is great, and dating someone without strings attached can be exciting, but having someone who is always there for you and has your back is the best thing in the world.

I want someone with whom I can spend a quiet Saturday night going back and forth the market aisles, laughing so hard while we pick the ingredients we need for the meal we will cook later. Someone with whom our biggest ‘fight’ will be what kind of movie we are going to watch or who is going to cook.

I want your face to be the first thing I see in the morning as you put your warm hand around me and bring me closer to you. I want you to meet me at the place where dreams and reality collide.

I want someone who is going to f*cking be there for me.

Life is not all roses and butterflies. Sometimes it can get really dark and murky and in those times we all need someone who’ll make us see the light again. Because it is easy to laugh and smile when things are going great, but I want someone who will be there with me when things are bad as well.

I want to be with someone who’ll take care of me. Someone who’ll pick up my favorite food on their way home because they know what makes me happy.

I am done with being single and pretending that I am enjoying the chaos of the thing called ‘online dating.’ I am so over the superficial things. I want something real this time.

I want the real deal. Someone who shows up and also stays.

I want someone to plan my future with – family holidays, vacations, dream house, ambitions, children, finances… I want all of that. I want to build with someone who I know will be there for me forever.

I want someone who I can count on. Someone who will always show up for me no matter what.

Show up for me when I need a hand with something. I want to feel secure and know that no matter what happens (good or bad), I can always call them, and they’ll be there for me and not because I asked them to, but because they truly want to.

I want to be and feel like a priority. I am done with undermining myself and my expectations. I am done being told that I am wishing too much, that I have high and unrealistic expectations.

I’ve had it enough. I am not asking too much. I am just asking for someone who will just f*cking show up for me and love me in a real way.

No more second-guessing. No more lukewarm relationships. No more stringing along. This time I am done.

Mary Wright