This goes tо every heartbroken girl, every torn and disappointed woman, every deceived and manipulated girl, every pure and kind-hearted being who believed a little too much… I know your pain. I feel you.
I was once exactly where you are now. I let myself be fooled by a nice guy disguised as a real man. That was the moment when my life as I knew it started changing for the worst.
So, here’s the truth. There’s a big difference between a nice guy and a good man. This is why I feel compelled to put my knowledge and experience to good use…
A nice guy is charming, irresistible, insatiable. He will tell you everything you want to hear. And he won’t hesitate to lie to you when it feels convenient to him. Especially when there’s something ugly that he desperately wants to hide.
But, a good man will always speak the truth. He won’t be afraid to hurt your feelings by telling you the truth because he genuinely believes that integrity and honesty are more important than comfort. Those are values that last forever.
It is simple.
A nice guy is afraid of being rejected and he does everything in his power to gain validation, while a good man knows exactly how much he’s worth and doesn’t give a damn whether he’s rejected or accepted.
A nice guy will seem like a nice guy until he reveals his real intentions and tries to change who you are. He will try to modify your personality and mold you into a person he can see himself with. A good man, on the other hand, will not only respect your individuality but he will also love you for your wild peculiarity.
A nice guy will miss your calls and avoid your messages, but a good man will come to your door in the middle of the night and surprise you with a pizza and two bottles of beer.
A nice guy will treat you like an option. He will show you very little to get you hooked and then he’ll disappear when you least expect it, knowing you’ll always be there waiting for him.
But, a good man… Oh, a good man will never leave you hanging, without having the slightest idea what’s going on between you two. He will let you know what’s in his heart. He’ll commit to you. He’ll open the gates of his world to you. He’ll welcome you in his world and give you
A nice guy won’t apologize when he’s wrong. He won’t take responsibility for his actions. Instead, he’ll find it easier to put the blame on someone else. A good man, on the other hand, will admit his mistakes. He will know when he’s wrong and he’ll know what to do to make things right again.
A nice guy will only see you as a one time thing, but a good man will love you forever.
A nice guy is accustomed to an easy life. He won’t bother to work hard and struggle when he has a shortcut. That is why he’ll usually pick the easier way out. No muss, no fuss. But, a good man, he will be 100% committed to his self-growth and his development. He will finish the work because it is the only way to ever achieve his goals. A good man knows that in life, there are no shortcuts.
More importantly, a good man won’t be concerned with labels and etiquettes like the nice guy. He will care about values.
So, please, learn the difference between these two, don’t settle for less than you deserve, and don’t you ever let them trick you!
Nice guys aren’t always good men!