You cannot force life to happen to you. You cannot force getting a better job, fall in love, or even harder yet, get someone else to fall in love with you.
You cannot force getting more money and going on that trip you’ve been planning for months. But, what you can do is stop stewing alone and take every adventure as it comes your way.
Never underestimate the power of new friendships, parties, theatre plays, mountain hikes, or new hobbies. Those things can lift you up just as much as anything else you daydream about. Because those things broaden your horizons and they make you enjoy your time here on Earth.
Everything will fall into place. Sometimes, when you least expect it, all the missing pieces of the puzzle will fall into place. Effortlessly.
The best thing to do is wait and make good use of the time ahead of you.
You better take your time to discover what is it you want before you lose everything else trying to chase goals imposed by society.
Goals that aren’t necessarily yours. Timing which isn’t necessarily yours and yet you chase it for the sake of fitting in. For the sake of conforming to other people’s expectations and standards.
Live your life the way you want to live it and in case you still haven’t fulfilled all your dreams, don’t stress about it. You are not lagging behind. We all walk down a different road and our life events cannot be synchronized.
I mean, just because every one of your friends is in a relationship, or married, or has children, it doesn’t mean that you have to rush to do those things as well.
We are the happiest when love and success surprise us, take us by storm. When they are unforced and spontaneous. We are the happiest when we do our thing; when we live life until life of another form happens to us.
I know you compare yourself to other people, but that’s not a realistic comparison.
You compare yourself to the image of them. You don’t compare yourself to that actual, ordinary, fallible person, but to their Instagram profile. And I know that you want to stop comparing yourself to others, and I know that’s easier said than done.
But trust me, there is a tremendous difference between people on social media and the people behind it.
We are all fragile. We like to look better, more successful, more in love than we are. It’s all just smoke and mirrors. If you put social media aside for a while, if you look at the people through different lenses you’ll see yourself: with the same insecurities, doubts, dreams, cravings, and plans. Just different timing.
So stop chasing vapor. Focus on what’s already there and trust that you’ll get everything you want and need in life, if only you let loose and let life take its course.
We don’t dictate the order of events, but we do dictate our happiness, our perspective, our mindset. Remember, what you see and what’s real is not always the same.
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Don’t Take Rejection Personally: It Can Be A Blessing In Disguise To Start Searching For Someone Better
When someone says that you are not the right person for them or that they would want to move forward with their life without you in it you can do a lot of things. You can certainly start crying and yelling or you can try throwing your phone at them.
But don’t. First, because your phone is more valuable than they are at the moment and second because you should respect their decision.
Peacefully accepting that someone had a change of heart is the most grown-up thing you can do. You respect yourself by showing that you understand the decision and you do yourself a favor when you walk away.
You take a deep breath, you smile, and you accept. And then you move forward.
Accepting the things we wish weren’t true is one of the hardest challenges, but it’s better to accept them sooner than later because otherwise, we’ll be wasting our time and energy. False hope has rotten roots and nothing good can come out of it.
I mean, realizing that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with didn’t feel that way about you can certainly crush your ego, but you’ll be thankful for that in the future for you’ll learn how not to let your guard down too soon and you’ll learn so much about self-respect, maturity, and individuality.
You will learn a thing or two about self-worth and you’ll put yourself first.
One person’s rejection or approval does not, I repeat, does not define your whole life. Your talents, your personality, your achievements.
You are a special cookie and you’ll find someone who is going to love you for you and you’ll feel it in your gut that they are the right one for you. As humans, we have a way of sensing those things.
If that person decided that you are not right for each other, then you need to stop idealizing the relationship you had with them because obviously, that relationship wasn’t perfect. Far from it.
When you in a relationship some feelings should be mutual. If someone decided to be honest with you and set you free, take that chance to get out of there, slam the door to the past, and seal it.
You may not find love when you’ll be looking for it. It may take months, years, but it’s better to search for that person who will be happy to have you – alone.
Holding grudges never helped anyone because everyone is just trying to find happiness for themselves. So, don’t take rejection personally. You’ve probably rejected someone or something yourself down the road because it wasn’t what you needed at the time.
True, right? Well, you get my point. Now cheer up and make use of what you already have in front of you. The right person for you will pop up when you least expect them and it will feel right.
Oh, good old dating days… Good old days of love, affection, physical closeness, real values, and true happiness. How I miss those. How I crave those.
It was different back then. People were happier. Relationships were simpler. Love was more genuine. Life was easier.
I consider myself truly lucky to be a part of the last generation that actually valued love over everything. The generation that had real values. The generation that didn’t need to be validated by anyone. The generation that knew what real love means.
Today, we live in a completely different world. All of those things are in the past now…
Nowadays, people are obsessed with sharing their lives on social media. It is the only thing that brings them joy. Or so it seems. They feel like if they don’t show their partner or share the bits of their relationship on social media, they will be instantly accused of avoiding commitment and hiding their love life. As if Facebook and Instagram were real measures of one’s happiness. It is hilarious.
Just one wrong move in the online world and you can be immediately be charged with not being “the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend”. It doesn’t take much. Just forget to post a photo of your vacation or simply don’t share an anniversary status with the world, and you are done.
I repeat. Done.
Why? Tell me, why do we need to be constantly validated by society?
Isn’t our own validation, our own approval, our own opinion enough?
And if it isn’t, I dare to ask once more. WHY?
You don’t need an online approval of your love life or your life, in general. Social media might be a good place for exchanging information, ideas, and opinions. And that’s it. Nothing more. Social media should not measure the success or the longevity of your relationship. Your partner not posting photos of you on a regular basis or not sharing love posts with you shouldn’t make you doubt them. The only thing that you should care about is their behavior when they are with you.
Your relationship is not a movie for others to see. It is not something that should disclose to the general public. Your intimacy is reserved only for you and your partner. No one else.
And also… What good can come off sharing your entire life on social media when you have no clue what tomorrow might bring? What if you break up? What if one day you wake up and realize that you no longer love that person?
What will you do then? You’ll delete all those posts and photos and pretend like nothing ever happened until the next person comes along, sweeps you off your feet and you start sharing another love story online?
Excuse me, but that’s just sad. Your relationship is not a romantic movie. It is real life. It is happening right here and right now. And it concerns you and your partner. Not your friends. Not your family. And especially not your followers.
So, here’s a wild idea.
What do you say you stop obsessing so much about what your relationship looks online and start focusing on how your relationship looks in real life?
True happiness is found only in togetherness. In respecting, loving, trusting, and cherishing one another. In being there for one another and spending your life in each other’s company. In talking about the things that startle you, sharing your plans, daydreaming, supporting each other’s goals, listening to each other’s opinions, and simply enjoying your life together. In paying attention. In living in the present moment… In valuing and protecting your intimacy.
So, don’t let this society fool you. You don’t need an online approval to be happy in your relationship.
All you need is love.
A real man always puts his lady first. He always treats her with love and respect. She is the priority in his life.
Here are some quotes about how real men treat their ladies.
“Being a good husband is like being a good stand-up comic: you need ten years before you can even call yourself a beginner.” –Jerry Seinfeld
“You spend time with your family?” Good. Because a man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” –Don Vito Corleone, The Godfather
“A real man won’t date the most beautiful girl in the world – he’ll date the girl that makes his world beautiful.” – Anonymous
“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” –Frank Abagnale
“If you want to be a real human being – a real woman, a real man – you cannot tolerate things which put you to indignation, to outrage. You must stand up. I always say to people, ‘Look around; look at what makes you unhappy, what makes you furious, and then engage yourself in some action.’” – Stephane Hessel
“The real man is one who always finds excuses for others, but never excuses himself.” – Henry Ward Beecher
“You can’t be a real man if you don’t look out for your kids. They need you.” – Bill O’Reilly
“Remember those black-and-white films with Frank Sinatra? Those guys looked like men and they were only 27! Listen to Otis Redding singing ‘Try A Little Tenderness.’ That was a man who understood what a man has to know in the world. Show me a real man now! Where are they?” – Chrissie Hynde
“Having two daughters changed my perspective on a lot of things, and I definitely have a newfound respect for women. And I think I finally became a good and real man when I had a daughter.” – Mark Wahlberg
Love hurts equally for men and women. There are no real ways of softening the pain after a breakup and whoever tells you that they are over their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is probably lying.
Breakups are like open wounds; they bleed with the mere mentioning of the person that hurt you.
But someday, all of the pain will go away. I can’t tell you when exactly or how, but I know that time plays a key role here. Believe me, I’ve been there.
One day you’ll wake up knowing that you’re over that person and you’ll be ready to move on.
Men have one way of coping with breakups: they go out, they drink, they have fun, they avoid talking about it. Women, on the other hand, cry in their rooms for days and overthink.
Truth is, we all need to do what works for us. The general rule of thumb is: don’t start hating on the opposite sex just because of one person.
We are all human beings, we all want to be loved. If someone did something that hurt you – if they cheated on you, manipulated you, or guilt-tripped you – let them go
We all love in the same way. The only thing we differ in is how we treat others. Women can cheat and lie too. They can be emotionally unstable or emotionally unavailable. They can be psychological abusers too. These are not male or female traits, these are people’s traits. Very ugly and negative ones, I give you that, but everyone chooses their own path.
So, you choose your own path too. You don’t have to hate the rest of the world because of one person. Let them be. They will eventually realize the chaos they’ve created and what they’ve lost. It’s your job to get free of the negativity and to find someone better.
Good, loving, caring people don’t just fall into your laps, you have to search for them. But know this, once they enter your life – don’t let them slip through your hands.
Cherish those tender, hardworking, romantic men, cherish those caring women who are not going to play some mind games with you or act like they are hard to get.
Embrace simplicity, embrace modesty. In a world full of people pretending to be someone they are not, in a world full of people faking wealth and stressing over brands, be real. Be humble and gentle in heart. You will attract fewer people, but you will attract the real ones.
It’s those people that will love you endlessly and that won’t pay attention to the material things you possess but to your soul. They will love you the way you love them and they will reciprocate with the same intensity.
Genuine, mature, and caring people aren’t motivated by ego, stigma, pride, and narcissism. They are motivated by equality, humbleness, and mutual understanding.
When a woman realizes she’s made it, and by ‘made it’ I don’t mean achieving some kind of financial gain or professional success, then she is unstoppable.
When she reaches a point in her life when she simply doesn’t care about anyone’s bullshit and she is done playing games and entertaining people who don’t deserve her time – then she is a powerful and unshakeable force.
Her motto in life is simply – “I am a mature woman and I won’t settle for your nonsense.”
She won’t settle for your drama. She is not a fan of constant arguments. She doesn’t like wondering where you are and whether you’ll call. She knows who she is and what she deserves, and she doesn’t deserve to be treated as an option.
She doesn’t want a bigger apartment, a bigger salary, bigger anything. She is satisfied with her life as it is. Because you know, some people want a normal and simple life.
She knows she’s not perfect nor she wants to be. She also doesn’t expect her partner to be perfect. She knows every person is flawed in their own way and she is not there to judge. What she does expect though, is love, empathy, kindness, and compassion.
She is confident in the way she looks and doesn’t need anyone that tries to change her. Yes, she has wrinkles, yes, she has under-eye circles, but she doesn’t need anyone to give her a lesson on skincare.
She also doesn’t need anyone to tell her to exercise and eat healthily. She exercises because it makes her feel good, not because she has some beauty standard to achieve. She is happy in her own body regardless of her weight. And yes, she will eat whole chocolate if she feels like it.
She surrounds herself only with people who truly love and understand her. She doesn’t need any toxic or unkind people in her life.
She loves herself and her life and she won’t allow anyone to toy with her.
Kind people are the most beautiful looking ones. Their kindness shines through them and makes this world a better place.
Here are 7 ways how to be kind to yourself and to others.
1. LET GO OF YOUR BAGGAGE
Your past baggage can hold you back and stop your inner light from shining through. We’ve all experienced hardships and pain, but the important thing is that we heal ourselves and start a new life.
2. STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE
You are beautiful inside and out. After all, physical beauty is faltering, what matters is what we carry inside ourselves. A good and kind soul is the most beautiful thing in the world.
3. KEEP A HEALTHY SELF-IMAGE
Accept your flaws. No one is perfect. Love yourself for who you are. Love your body, your face, your hair, your kind heart, your loving soul!
4. HAVE FUN
Be yourself. Have fun. Go out with your friends. Dance. Have a drink. Go to a movie. Go skiing. Have a good time doing what you love.
5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Being good to yourself is essential for your happiness. You can’t have meaningful connections with others if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. Focus on yourself. Eat healthy. Drink water. Take a vacation. Go on spa weekend. Pamper yourself.
6. STOP OVERTHINKING
Let things unfold naturally. Don’t rush anything. Don’t worry about things that may or may not happen in the future. Overthinking won’t help you. Just have faith, stay calm, and believe in yourself.
7. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART
Your heart is always talking to you. You should have courage to listen to it and follow its advice. Your heart knows what’s best for you.
And when you are in tune with your heart and mind and at peace with yourself, your aura will change and you’ll attract positive and beautiful things into your life.
Romance should exist in a relationship and this goes to both men and women. We all need to light up the romance from time to time and make date nights appear a lot more often on our schedules.
Coming up with ideas of how to rekindle the passion in a relationship can be hard, especially for men, so here’s a list of things you should do occasionally for women whose standards you are going to come up to and who are going to secure you a place in their hearts.
1. HOME COOKED MEAL FOR TWO
Every once in a blue moon, try cooking for her, and I don’t mean fake cooking, like ordering from a restaurant and then throwing the boxes out, so she won’t notice. Include a dessert and, of course, – her favorite wine. This won’t cost much, but she’ll be thrilled.
2. DO THE HOUSE CHORES
She must be tired of cleaning around the house, plus cooking, plus going to work every day. So, wash the dishes, throw out the garbage, or organize the closet. You can even try ironing the clothes; if you don’t do them right, she’ll find it funny and sweet because you actually tried. Now, don’t do this while she is in her PMS because then she may not handle it well – but the rest of the days you can give it a go.
3. ROMANTIC WEEKEND
Going somewhere for the weekend from time to time is really important. You can go on a picnic somewhere in nature or get out of town. Hot springs and spas are a really good idea too. It’s the process of planning you did that will make her excited and in love with you now more than ever, so the trip doesn’t have to be somewhere exclusive. It’s your effort that matters.
Complimenting her on her looks will only come as a bonus for you, especially if you are not ashamed to do it publicly. It would be a wonderful reassurance about how much you love her and how proud you are of her. Another plus is the benefit you can get in bed; her sex drive is likely to be higher if you compliment her on her dress, her perfume, or how well the lipstick accentuates her lips.
5. FLOWERS AND LOVE NOTES
Surprise her by sending her flowers at work accompanied by some love note. You’re not a poet, we get it, but something like good morning, love or have a great day can do wonders.
6. GEMS AND JEWELS
Women love jewelry, so that’s a start, but it’s certainly not the only option you have. Even something simpler and less costly can be a wonderful gesture. A scarf, or that book she said she wanted to buy, or some coffee mug can do the magic. No doubts.
This one speaks for itself, so yeah. Don’t be lazy and give her a massage after she comes home from work.
8. BUILD SOMETHING FOR HER
We all know you, men, are dexterous, and you know how to use all those tools, pliers and wrenches, so making a small library for her books or a new jewelry box would make her jaw drop.
Yes, dancing, and don’t you dare skip this one. If she thought your dancing is terrible, well go and prove her wrong. Practice your moves and then dance with her from time to time. Some nice, smooth blues or whatever. Very important.
10. MAKE A LIST
Make a list of all the things you like about her or a list of all the things you want to do with her.
11. WATCH A SHOW WITH HER
Even if the show is great and you can’t wait to watch the next episode, sustain yourself. You can also add: Honey, I’ve been waiting for you to watch the show together, in case she thinks the show is not a big deal for you. Well, you go and tell her that you want to watch it, but you’d much rather watch it with her.
So, men, if women didn’t ask you to do any of these things, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do them.
Come on, level up – it’s not as hard as it seems. Also, if women see this kind of effort you make, they are going to reciprocate as well!
Dating, in general, is hard enough already without all the creeps and back alley negotiations going on, so why add all the drama on top of it all? Well basically, because there are weirdos out there that get a thrill and kick out of it without taking into consideration the consequences and negative impact they are making on lives.
What is dating?
It is the stage in life where you are putting yourself out there to meet a person in a social situation and see if you are compatible as humans as well as assess whether there is the prospect of being together intimately in a relationship.
Courtship and courting these days are where the relationship develops and grows and you begin to realize the long-term possibilities with this person. Read about the etymology and history in this link and how behavior patterns have changed and evolved over the years.
Although nowadays it is done in public through social events, occasions and for sure the social media platforms, it can also be built privately within traditions and no intrusions with the exception perhaps to family approval.
This system of introductions and creating personal connections via the internet has seemed to take over the need for chivalry, long gone are the days where to get someone’s attention you made an effort of flowers, a card or even a serenade under a window sill. Now it’s all emojis and sexting and chatting to a person who might not even be who they claim to be.
Many of these dating apps and websites allege to be legitimate companies with real people looking for a life partner, but so many are being exposed these days for the corrupt and illegal activities they offer, it can be a worry not to get scammed.
Online Dating site scams.
Being wary when it comes to searching online for the love of your life is an understatement, you have to be real and alert. Many victims fall prey to the charms of others and it can seriously damage your life, with some cases being the end of it, take a minute and see what a brave woman who spoke out on being caught, experienced.
The unfortunate issue with this is that the reputable companies and dating sites out there are being roped into it all and getting a bad reputation along with the rest of them. The fake profiles, the false identities, and the illusion of emotions are all copied and cloned in these fake sites and because they seem so similar you doubt yourself into believing it is genuine.
Signs of a Scam Dating site and its Users.
- Love in a short time. Scam artists will proclaim to have strong feelings for you and even be ‘falling in love’ with you after just a short period, they will ask to have you to themselves and move the conversation to a more private method such as phone and texts, this is a red flag.
- As you get to ‘know’ them, details will start to not add up. Indicating in the profile they have a degree in a certain subject but when asked they avoid the subject or seem to not remember. Photos that don’t match the description or photos you’ve received, and are brushed off as being taken back in college are a rookie mistake.
- No Contact Info. You’ve come across an issue, and the website has no contact info, tell-tale sign its fraudulent. Fortunately, some do get caught and publicized which you can educate yourself on here http://www.datingcop.com/yesbackpage-review and see just how they try their tricks and get away with it.
- Personal issues. A sudden problem has come up with a family member and their money is tied up there, asking if you can help financially in any way should have you packing for the hills.
- Or lack-there-of for customers including bad reviews will help make your decision not to use them easier and more comfortable, do your research, be thorough and don’t give these con-artists a chance.
Karma has a funny way of tying the two ends together at the end of the day, these scammers will get what’s due to them, just be safe and happy dating.
The reality is, we outgrow people who are not true and genuine with us. Those who are not honest. Those who say things we want to hear but never take action to prove them. Those who don’t give a damn about our needs and desires because they only care about their own. Those who expect us to accept them the way they are but are busy changing us and shaping us into the people they want us to be.
We outgrow people who don’t respect us and don’t appreciate us. Those who are fine regardless of whether they have us in their lives. Those who make us feel worthless and replaceable.
We outgrow people who make us beg for their time and attention. People who make us feel like we are not worthy of them. People who put us last on their list of priorities. Those who never have time for us.
Because we reach a point of no return. When we remind ourselves of our worth and what we deserve, we will not be selling short ourselves ever again. We will turn out back to those people and walk away. We won’t be giving them our hearts and energy to someone who takes us for granted.
We are choosing ourselves. We are practicing self-love.
Because we don’t have time for people who don’t invest in us. We outgrow those who treat us as ordinary. Those who keep us around until they find what they are looking for.
We outgrow people who are unable to love us the way we deserve to be loved. Those who don’t contribute to our lives in any way. Those who make us question our self-worth.
We outgrow people who are not scared of losing us because they have never seen our value and they never will.
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1. Good morning beautiful.
2. You look so lovely when you are sleeping.
3. I love waking up next to you.
4. I hope your day is as beautiful as you.
5. I had a wonderful time with you last night.
6. You’ll be on my thoughts today.
7. Knowing that you are mine makes me so calm and peaceful.
8. I love lying in bed next to you.
9. I can’t wait to see you.
10. I wish we could stay in bed all day and be lazy.
11. Kick ass at work today.
12. You are always, always on my mind.
13. I love hearing your sleepy voice in the morning.
14. I enjoy having my pillows smell like you.
15. When will I see you again?
16. Your presence feels so good.
17. I just love watching you sleep.
18. I hope you slept well.
19. I can’t wait to see you.
20. I am missing your snuggles.
21. Is it normal that I just woke up and I miss you already?
22. Good morning gorgeous.
23. Have a great day, sunshine.
24. I love being with you.
25. I am so happy with you.
26. You are the most beautiful after you wake up.
27. You are the most beautiful woman I know.
28. Everything is better with you by my side.
19. Every morning is a good one when you are next to me.
30. I will love you.
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In an Instagram world, full of bloggers and people living their “perfect” lives that they proudly flaunt by posting pictures and stories every day, we are prone to lose the touch of reality and our ability to distinguish what’s fake and what’s not.
Maybe it’s just me, but I think that by posting pictures of our lives, we are opening the door to our privacy and allowing other people in and in turn, our lives become centered on the opinions of other people. We become obsessed with impressing others that we forget about ourselves and what it is that we truly want.
By doing so, we are unconsciously missing out on people that may be good for us. People with big hearts who are loyal and want to find true love. We could be missing on them because we are not letting down our guard, we are not allowing anyone to come close enough to us where they can hurt us. We are pushing people away by being emotionally distant because society has taught us that it is the only way to survive and not having your heart broken repeatedly.
The truth is when you start dating someone, all the process of getting to know each other should be intimate and private (not in a sexual way). You should base your opinion of a certain person only by your own perception and judgment and not according to what other people tell you about them.
Because the truth is, we are not perfect. Every person has a past and has made mistakes along the way. We’ve all experienced pain and heartbreak, but we have different ways of dealing with it and protecting ourselves. We are different people and we want different things in life, and that’s why you should never look for approval from others. Do what your heart tells you to do.
And when it comes to dating, the best way is to date in silence. Don’t tell anyone until you get to know the other person well so that you will not make the mistake of letting other people’s opinions mislead you. Trust your own judgment. Even if you are wrong, at least you will know that you have tried your best and you’ll save yourself from regrets.
Date silently because the people outside are envious, judgmental, and cold enough to put out any fire that is burning around you two.
A real relationship is between two people. Period. It shouldn’t be between you, your partner, your friends, their friends, your family, their family, your ex, their ex, or Susan and Paul from Instagram.
So, give yourself time and space to choose wisely. And always, always follow your heart. Because when you date silently, the love between you is loud and clear. And when you date out loud, the love will soon be silenced.
People often say to me that when you love someone, you can’t explain why you love them. It is a feeling that goes beyond all reasoning and planning. We rarely plan to fall in love. We just do. When we meet someone special, someone with whom we ‘click’ there is an instant connection and bonding that is happening between our souls.
Sometimes I feel that these soul-connections are given to us by God. I feel that God makes us meet certain people and allows them to become a vital part of our lives and change us to the core. These people are the ones who are destined to teach us the most valuable lessons about ourselves and the world.
When I look back, every person that has come into my life has come for a reason – to teach me something and shape me into the person I am today. And the interesting part is, these people were not meant to stay, they were only there to fulfill their mission and then leave.
Most of the time, it’s the stage of our lives we are in that determines the type of people that will connect with us. Because God always sends the right people at the right time and provides us with the answers we were looking for. He wants us to grow and become the best versions of ourselves and that’s why He sometimes brings challenging people that are meant to shake us to our core and inspire us to change.
The trouble is, when we fall in love with these people and our bond, we forget that they are only temporary and we don’t want to let go. So, we desperately try to make them our forever people even though they have fulfilled their mission and need to leave us. We just can’t understand why God would bring someone amazing into our lives and then take that person away.
And perhaps that’s the point. Maybe God is teaching us how to let go. Because after all, nothing is eternal. And in order for us to learn how to detach and accept that a certain story is over, we have to practice the art of letting go gracefully.
But most importantly, God is teaching us to have faith that one day we will meet someone who will be our forever.
I am a giver. I am a fighter. I am someone who has been taught to fight for the people and things I love. During my whole life, I believed that if I made a connection with someone, I should fight for it and do everything to keep that person in my life. How wrong I was…
I naively thought that every person in my life deserved to be there. I kept giving my all to them and kept ending up empty, brokenhearted, and utterly betrayed. And the saddest thing is, I was doing this to myself. I was betraying and destroying me because I couldn’t let go.
I just couldn’t accept the fact how the people I loved the most could hurt me just like that instead of loving me back. Why would someone reject all the love and care I was giving to them?
After many, many heartbreaks, and lonely nights spent in tears, I finally got it. You can’t change people. You can’t make them love you or appreciate you more.
In the process of being nice to others and making them love me, I lost myself. I forgot to love myself and be there for me. Because, at the end of the day, we are all alone. And when someone turns their back on us, we only got ourselves. And that should be enough. We are enough.
We must be our own heroes and not expect anything from anyone. We must be complete and whole on our own. We must guard our hearts ferociously because if we don’t, no one would.
I am proud to say that I’ve finally let go of people who didn’t value me. I have also learned that just because you love someone, it doesn’t mean that they love you back or are good for you. Just because you want someone in your life doesn’t mean that they deserve to have a place in your life and heart.
I’ve finally learned that I deserve more than someone who constantly hurts me and lets me down. I have faith in me and my future that I will find someone who will see my true worth and be there for me. Someone who will reciprocate my love and my effort. Someone who will treat me the way I deserve to be treated.
I am no longer think less of myself just because someone didn’t see my worth. I am just walking away from them and releasing them from my life and my energy field.
I’ve finally learned to let go…
The order of the wedding is one that is meticulously planned, to make the day a fulfilled one. But while planning, three essentials must be present — wedding blessings, wedding prayer and wedding readings. These three items each have their importance to the couple, and you have to get it right. While you can borrow already made ones, there’s also space for leaving your touch, by writing your own.
Whichever choice you make, see our lineup of prayers, readings, and wedding blessing ideas below. If you are the hopelessly romantic type, you’ll also find unique wedding poems for your delight. They are either religious, romantic or traditional to suit your preference!
The Wedding Readings
Wedding blessing readings are sweet and heartfelt words that distill your relationship. Readings are sourced from different materials like the holy book, literature, movies, music and more. They can also be written by you if you intend to personalize it. With this, we’ve rounded up examples of wedding readings. Get inspired, whip out the cute diary from your bride’s box, and put something down.
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
- By Rumi
May these vows and this marriage be blessed.
May it be like sweet milk,
this marriage, like wine and halvah.
May this marriage offer fruit and shade
like the date palm.
May this marriage be full of laughter,
our every day a day in paradise.
May this marriage be a sign of compassion,
a seal of happiness here and hereafter.
May this marriage have a fair face and good name,
an omen as welcome,
as the moon in a clear blue sky.
I am out of words to describe
how spirit mingles in this marriage.
The Marriage Blessings
Marriage blessings are more-or-less wedding wishes to the couple. The bulk of them is religious and traditional because they are well-grounded for generations. If you’re coming through wedding blessings quotes or texts, see some suggestions here.
- From The Church of England
Blessed are you, O Lord our God,
for you have created joy and gladness,
pleasure and delight, love, peace, and fellowship.
Pour out the abundance of your blessing upon the bride and groom in their new life together.
Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts
and a crown upon their heads.
Bless them in their work and in their companionship;
awake and asleep,
in joy and in sorrow,
in life and in death.
Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet
where your saints feast forever in your heavenly home.
We ask this through Jesus Christ your Son, our Lord
who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit,
one God, now and forever. Amen.
- By Dave Willis
May your marriage always bring glory to God, joy to one another and blessings to your family for many generations to come. May love and laughter fill your hearts and your home for all at the days of your lives. May you face every challenge hand-in-hand and side-by-side knowing that with God’s grace, you’ll conquer all obstacles together. May the world be forever a better place because the two of you fell in love. In Jesus’ name, Amen
The Wedding Prayers
Prayer for the wedding ceremony is the blessing of your union. This is very important if you intend to honor your faith and connect it to something spiritual. Wedding prayers are full of positivity and suit any wedding. They aren’t always religious, as you’ll see below.
- By Max Lucado
Would you take these two,
of dust and bone,
Born of flesh, then you,
Would you make them one?
Would you speak again
The words you spoke
When Adam slept
And Eve awoke?
Would you let your wine
Replace our water.
And look with grace
On this son, this daughter?
Oh Lord of Eden
In your majesty
Where there were two.
This is the prayer
We lift to you.
- By Robert Louis Stevenson
Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
for our friends in all parts of the earth.
Wedding blessings, prayers, and readings have been given in this post. Borrow or use them as templates for your wedding.