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Being Selective About People You Allow Into Your Life Means You Know How To Take Care Of Yourself


There are many forms of self-care from pampering and buying yourself something you want to meditating and exercising.

However, there is one type of self-care practice that we often overlook that is a very important one (if not the most important one) and that is being selective about who you allow into your life.

Because, the thing is – people you choose to surround yourself with are going to become an essential part of your life and shape your life in significant ways – positive or negative.

So, if life’s too short and you want to spend it with people who bring out the best out of you, why not cut off friends whose energy brings you down and limit your social circle to a small but solid, positive, and supportive group of people?

Perhaps it’s the introvert in me talking, but I really believe that having a small number of meaningful friendships is better than having a large group of friends and acquaintances. Why? Because I always choose quality over quantity.

I have a habit of creating a list with two columns – “People who lift me up” (left) and “People who bring me down” (right). I use this list to categorize my friends, coworkers, and newly met people into one of the two columns. Then, I decide to cut off people from the right column.

Many of you may think that this is an evil thing to do, but I don’t agree. I think that everyone should have their own ways to keep toxic people out of their lives. This is my way of doing it.

Why would I waste my time and energy on people who deplete me rather than adding more value to my life?  

Self-care is an extremely important thing that we should all practice. It is about giving yourself the love you deserve. It is caring for yourself and your well-being just as much or more than you care about others.

Self-care is about filling your life with good and positive people and letting their energy overflow your life with optimism and happiness.

Let go of drama, toxicity, and negative people. Choose love, happiness, and great energy instead. Then, watch what happens.

Your whole life will change in the most beautiful way possible.

Mary Wright