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Before You Are Sure You Want To Be With Someone, Date In Silence

Date In Silence Until You Can Love Out Loud

Is it me or have we become more than open to welcome too many people into our lives? We’ve become so influenced by social media that we no longer can distinguish fake from real. We want to present ourselves as living our best lives while getting more and more isolated from ourselves and from others.

That’s why we can easily miss out on good-hearted people, people who genuinely want our love and company. We could miss out on them because we are so focused on the fantasy world and we don’t let anyone to come near us.

When you meet someone and decide to date them, that process should be intimate and I am not talking about being intimate with them in a sexual way. I mean getting to know them in a real way and then deciding for yourself whether you want to be with them.

Of course, we all have flaws. No one is perfect. We are all troubled by the past and we’ve made mistakes along the way. We all have walls of protection around us to shield us from future pain and suffering. And this is okay. Remove your walls when you feel ready to do it, in your own time.

Until you are ready to be with someone, date them in silence. No one should know about you two so that your judgement and decision about each other won’t get poisoned and influenced by others. After all, a relationship is supposed to be between two people, not the whole world.

Leave everyone aside and listen to your heart. Go in the direction that feels good to you. Don’t let anyone cloud your decision about someone. Because, when you listen to what others have to say, you are not following your heart and you could hurt yourself in the process.

On the other hand, if you make a mistake, at least you’ll know that it was for the best. Because that is what love is all about – taking risks. You may fail, but you will grow and you will learn your lesson.

Mary Wright