What’s so special about him anyway? Sure, he’s handsome, he’s cool, he can be fun to be around, but what else is there? Being cool doesn’t make up for being an as*hole. Being handsome doesn’t make up for playing games with your heart. If he’s just the kind of guy who lives for the chase, why should you give into it?
It’s hard, but you need to realize that this guy doesn’t really care about you. By giving him so much of your attention and affection, you’re just hurting yourself. This is a letter to the girl who still needs to realize that he’s not worth it.
You Can’t Change A Bad Guy
I understand where you’re coming from, I’ve been there myself. In fact, I’ve been there more than a few times. You see, I used to be the kind of girl who would always fall for the “bad boys.” It didn’t matter to me what everyone else said about them, I knew that there was something good under that cool exterior.
Well, what I thought I knew was wrong. Although I tried so hard to see the good in these guys, I only ever ended up with a broken heart. Despite every effort I made, all they wanted to do was play me.
I used to blame myself and think that I just hadn’t tried hard enough. Maybe you’ve even had those same thoughts too. The reality of the situation though is that you just can’t change a man. If he’s just a douchebag then nothing you ever do will change that.
Don’t Shape Your Life Around Him
So, he wants you to drop everything to come and see him, and you’re willing to. Do you remember all the times that he was “too busy” for you? What about the times where he canceled at the last minute and left you feeling sad and alone?
Why would you let him control your life if he won’t put in any effort to be with you?
Even if you don’t believe it now, you deserve love, respect, and compassion. You deserve to be with someone who truly cares about you and will do whatever they can to prove that to you.
So, don’t wait until he decides to treat you better, don’t wait for him to change, and never put your life on hold just for him. If he’s not willing to give you those things, you need to walk away.
All the pain and sadness that he’s putting you through just isn’t worth it. Believe me when I tell you that there is someone better out there. There’s someone who’s going to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated. So please, don’t waste your time on a guy who isn’t worth it. Wait for a real man instead.
Do you know someone who’s been wasting their time on a guy who doesn’t deserve them? If so, share this with them to let them know that it’s time they moved on.
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