If you thought that you are getting the same sugar-coated and soothing advice as always, you are mistaken. I am not here to tell you that life is all about pink skies, unicorns, and rainbows. I am not here to tell you that everything will be okay. Because I don’t have that knowledge. I don’t know if everything will be okay.
All I know is that life is both beautiful and hard at the same time. That is why leaving wonderland and accepting these 7 brutally painful realities is essential if you want to find happiness and become a stronger person.
So, let’s go!
1. IT’S YOUR JOB TO FIX YOURSELF
Hello there. What’s your problem? Oh, you feel miserable? You cannot seem to understand the purpose of your existence here on Earth? Well, let me tell you something. We are all lost. We are all looking for the meaning of life.
That doesn’t mean that we should expect others to fix ourselves. They cannot. You are the only person who knows how to fix yourself. Even if you feel completely confused right now. You are your own savior. It’s your job to change what you dislike about yourself.
2. YOU ARE GOING TO FAIL, MANY TIMES
You will make stupid decisions. You will sound irrational. You will be a complete fool in the eyes of others. You will make terrible mistakes. And you will regret your actions. You will fall many times, but that will give you the strength to stand up and rise from the ashes as a person reborn.
You cannot avoid failing. So, stop holding on to perfection and try to learn something from your failures. They are the best lessons in life.
3. PERFECTION IS JUST AN ILLUSION
There’s no such thing as perfect weather, perfect partner, perfect job, perfect time and perfect life. Don’t let fairytales confuse you. This reality is flawed and imperfect. But that’s what makes this life amazing. Flaws are actually the greatest part.
4. NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU TRY, YOU CANNOT RE-WRITE THE PAST
I know it’s hard to forget the past. Especially if you’ve been struggling with some serious issues. But at some point, in life, you have to realize that no matter how much you stress or think about it, you cannot change what has already happened.
You just cannot re-write the past. The only thing you can do is forgive yourself and move on. Because your future depends on you.
5. WORKING HARDER DOESN’T NECESSARILY MEANS BEING PRODUCTIVE
Some people just love to boast about how busy they are, without realizing that their chaotic work schedule has nothing to do with productive work. The truth is, they are not quite aware that they are in a vicious work cycle.
People say go hard or go home. I say don’t go hard. Learn to work smarter. Learn to finish your tasks in a way that does not suck the life out of you. Turn off everything that distracts you and finds your zone. Let your creativity flow and get things done!
6. TOMORROW MIGHT NOT COME FOR ALL OF US
In a nutshell, everyone you know, and you love will die one day. That day may be tomorrow or after 50 years. You can never know for sure. That is why it is very important to be here for the people you love and show them how much you care about them.
Tomorrow doesn’t always come for all of us. The time is now.
7. IT’S NOT THAT YOU DON’T HAVE TIME; YOUR PRIORITIES ARE DIFFERENT
Oh, would you just stop with that “I don’t have the time” bulls*it? Of course, you do. We all have the time. It is how we decide to spend it that makes the difference. The truth is, it’s not that you don’t have the time. It’s just you have different priorities on your list.
The next time you want to do something, analyze how your usual day goes and make a list of your actual duties and your distractions. You will be surprised at how much time you unknowingly spend on people and things that don’t matter.
So, now that you’ve had your dose of brutally painful truths, what will you do today to improve your life?
This article is written by Stephanie Reeds. If you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will be happy to give you my opinion.