I believe that everyone knows what falling for potential looks like. You meet a man and you think that he possesses all the traits you could want in a partner. Of course, he is not perfect. He has flaws, but you think that you can fix them and make him better. Well, perhaps you can, but there is one little problem: You aren’t in love with him. You are in love with potential.
What you’re failing to realize is that by trying to fix his flaws and change him, you’re actually destroying every pure part of you.
If you don’t accept and love the person you’re in a relationship with the way they are right at this moment, then you shouldn’t be with them in the hope that you’ll manage to change them so that they can fit into how you want them to be.
Because when you’re truly in love with someone, you don’t ask them to change for you. You don’t ask them to get out of their irritating habits or overcome all of their weaknesses just to change them into someone better.
Instead, you accept and cherish them for who they are. You embrace their annoying habits, their quirks, their whims, their insecurities, and their fears. Why?
Because you understand that their weaknesses and imperfections are a small part of them – a part that makes them beautiful and unique. A part that makes them perfect. Perfect to you.
So, if you’re trying to change the guy you are dating, know that you owe it to yourself and him, too, to put an end to the relationship and walk away. Because what you’re feeling for him is not true love. Instead, it’s attachment. It’s neediness.
You owe it to yourself to learn what good relationships require. You owe it to yourself to learn how healthy, strong, happy, and long-standing relationships are built.
You owe it to yourself to understand that it’s not your job to fix anyone. If someone really loves you and wants to be a better partner for you, they’ll change their behavior themselves.
You owe it to yourself to stop waiting for the day when he will finally be the guy that fits into how you want him to be and that deserves a smart, strong, and beautiful woman like you. Because true love is not based on potential. True love is based on mutual acceptance, respect, and trust.
