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A Friendly Advice To The Woman Dating My Ex Boyfriend: Leave Him Before It’s Too Late!


I heard that he moved on and I heard that he found you.

I truly wish you all the best.

But, the reality is not always as bright as we wish to be.

It took me 4 years to realize that what we had wasn’t love. It took me my entire life to understand that this person was only using me to satisfy his greed and cover his insecurities.

Looking back at my life I can’t believe how little I must have thought of myself to let him control me and abuse me until he got everything he wanted.

I can’t help but overhear about your issues. Don’t get me wrong, but it’s all people talk about these days.

Oh, how I’m familiar with those stories. Those lovely magical fairytales at the beginning of our relationship.

How he loved me more than anything in the world, and how much he wanted to marry me.

I remember I was madly, deeply in love with him. I was lost.

I heard that you love him too. I heard that you want to marry him. And I can’t blame you, at one point in my life I did too. His irresistible and sensual charisma made me do things I never imagined I’d do for another human being.

He promised me the world. He promised me the moon and the sky. He knew his way around me. His tender and kind words were everything I wanted to hear. So, he sensed my addiction and used it against me.

He was my everything. He was the man I wanted to end up with. But, thinking back, I can’t tell you how proud and happy I feel for making the most important decision in my life. To leave him.

I don’t even want to imagine what my life would have been like if I had stayed. It would’ve been filled with silent resentment, and constant humiliation.

It wouldn’t have been a life full of love. It would have been hell. A prison cell where he would keep me chained against my free will.

It would have been a life I hated because I would have never discovered my soul if I stayed with him.

That’s why I’m certain he will never change. I went through all of his bullshit, and I am just glad I made it back in one piece.

So, hear me when I say. He will always try to control you. He will never let you chase your dreams, stand your ground and do whatever the hell you want.

He’s an entitled douchebag who thinks that the whole world should revolve around him.

He’s always going to be jealous, even when there’s nothing. He’s always going to act superior over you as if you are some kind of a slave who needs to be told what to do next. He’s going to make you feel worthless. He’s going to convince you that you don’t deserve love. He will even try to persuade you that black is white.

Because he’s a manipulative psychopath. And he’ll do anything to turn your mind against you.

I wish I had the power to save you from his wicked claws and help you understand how toxic he really is.

I wish I knew then what I know now.

Because, love is something pure, you know? It is supposed to be felt deeply. It doesn’t take away your freedom, it doesn’t control or accuse you of anything. Love frees you. It helps you fly with your own wings. It supports you. Most of all, love encourages you.

I may not know you but, I believe you deserve more then you settled for.

I believe you’re a sensitive, caring and a pure girl like me who only wants to experience real love. But, unfortunately, you got lost along the way.

So, please leave him before it’s too late. I promise you, the world is filled with thousands of opportunities. Don’t condemn yourself to a life full of misery. Don’t let him chain you and control you. That person beside you is toxic and he will make sure to destroy your heart.

You can break free and live your life the way you want to.

So, run. Leave him, run free and never ever look back.

Image :Marta Bevacqua

Stephanie Reeds