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8 Ways To Let Go Of The Pain Of Loving Someone You Can’t Have


One of the greatest heartaches you’ll ever face is unrequited love. Rashida Rowe one said, “The worst feeling is falling for someone and knowing that they won’t be there to catch you” and nothing has ever rung so true. Being in love with someone who doesn’t love you will destroy you from the inside out.

As hard as it is, eventually, you’ll need to accept that you can’t be with them and move on. You will need to practice these 8 ways to let go of the pain of loving someone you can’t have.

1. Have People Around to Support You

You can’t battle something like this alone. Although they won’t be able to fix it for you, it’s important to keep your friends and family close. Having a support system will make the whole process of letting go so much easier for you.

2. Enjoy Your Time With Them

You don’t have to shut the person you have feelings for out of your life entirely. It’s perfectly fine to hang out with them as friends sometimes. If you try to cut them out immediately, your heart will break for them even more.

3. But Also Limit The Time You Spend With Them

Yes, you can spend time with them sometimes. On the other hand though, it may be smart of you to not spend all your time with them. You need to slowly lessen the connection between you two so that you don’t become, or stay, dependent on them.

4. Try Seeing Other People

The easiest way to get over someone is by finding someone new. If you’re ready, then try venturing back into the dating world. Maybe you’ll even find someone that you really click with and you’ll forget all about the other person.

5. Pick Up a New Hobby

You need to stay busy or else you’re just going to spend all day on the coach daydreaming about your unrequited love. Try taking up a new hobby that will keep you occupied. It could be a sport, learning a new language, playing an instrument, or even making origami. Do whatever it is that you enjoy.

6. Spend Time With Friends

If you were really in love with this person, then it’s likely that you ignored your friends to spend more time with them. Doing that will not only make your feeling for them deeper but also push your friends away. Use more of your time on hanging out with your other friends instead.

7. Tell Them How You Feel

Opening up about your feelings is a daunting task, especially if you already know that you can’t have them. Unfortunately, it’s an important step that you need to take. Express your feelings to them and find out if they’re comfortable with staying friends. As well as that, you’ll find that your feelings will begin to dampen once everything is out in the open.

8. Decide if It’s Too Hard to Stay Friends With Them

Of course, you’re allowed to stay friends with them, but you need to put your feelings first. Only you know if you can really handle being just friends or if it’s always going to be too hard for you. If you think that you can’t handle it, it may be time to cut ties.

Letting go of someone you love is a painful ordeal but continuing to love them when they don’t love you will just hurt you even more. By doing these 8 things, you’ll learn to finally move on from them. With time, you’ll be able to completely let go of them.

Do you know someone who’s in love with someone who doesn’t love them back? Share this article with them to help them move on.

Eva Jackson