There’s no secret formula for a happy relationship. There’s no perfect recipe you have to stick to, no equation you have to solve in order to make your relationship work. Every love story is different. Every romantic novel is unique on its own.
However, even though there’s no actual recipe for true love, we can all agree that relationships require a lot of effort and hard work from both sides. It takes two to tango and it takes two to make love work.
Passion, mutual understanding, communication, patience, tolerance, honesty, self-love, compassion, and commitment are all necessary ingredients for a successful and loving relationship. Therefore, when even one of these is left out, it becomes really hard to maintain the glow your relationship once had.
If this is happening to you, but you are too scared to let go, it’s really important for you to understand that staying in a relationship that no longer feels alive can eventually have a very harmful effect on your mental and emotional wellbeing.
Here are 8 signs that it’s finally time to make the step and move on:
1. YOUR VALUES ARE NOT RESPECTED
Relationships are not supposed to destroy our identities and force us to lose our sense of self. Love is supposed to free you. Lift you up. It’s supposed to give you wings to fly. To help you grow and evolve into a better person.
You should never ever feel that you have to abandon your core values for the sake of the one you love. If this is the case, you have to accept the fact that this relationship is not good for you.
2. YOU NO LONGER HAVE THE NEED TO BE PHYSICALLY INTIMATE
Sex is definitely not everything, but it is one of the most important ingredients in a relationship. If the lust fades away and you no longer desire to be physically touched by your partner, then it may be time to stop and think about where your relationship is going.
3. YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T RECIPROCATE
A relationship is a partnership. If you are the only person who is constantly initiating conversations, planning dates, thinking about your future together, it is clear that your partner doesn’t care about the whole thing as much as you do. Find the strength within you and get out before it’s too late.
4. YOU DON’T FEEL COMFORTABLE COMMUNICATING WITH YOUR PARTNER
We all know that good and honest communication is the foundation of every successful and thriving relationship. You have to feel free to open your heart and express your innermost feelings to your partner. To be completely naked and vulnerable in front of them. Only then will the magic happen.
Anything other than that is not worthy enough to be called love.
5. YOU ARE NOT ACTING LIKE YOURSELF
This should go without saying. A relationship shouldn’t force you to wear a mask. The person you love shouldn’t make you walk on eggshells around them. You should feel free to be who you really are. If they cannot accept the real, flawed, imperfect you, then it’s time for you to pack your bags and leave.
6. THEY DON’T WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR LOVED ONES
No one says that your better half should love your loved ones as much as you do. But it is very important that they respect the ones you care about. If they can’t be bothered to do that for you, they don’t deserve to be a part of your life. End of discussion.
7. THEY DON’T SUPPORT YOU ANYMORE
The person you love should support you 100%. They should believe in you, inspire you to achieve more and motivate you to never give up.
After all, isn’t that what relationships are for?
If you feel as though your partner is no longer your teammate, then this is a serious sign that your relationship is slowly dying. Accept the fact that letting go and moving on are the only keys to your happiness.
8.T HEY DON’T TRY TO WORK THINGS OUT
Every couple fights. You may think that arguing is a bad thing, but in reality, it’s what keeps the relationship healthy. It’s a way to express everything that you carry inside and find a solution for every problem in the relationship.
However, when one of the partners seems to be the main reason for every disagreement, and on top of that doesn’t bother to work things out, then that is a serious sign that the relationship is no longer worth fighting for. If your partner doesn’t care about you enough to try to make work things out, it’s time for you to leave for good.