A meaningful and long-lasting relationship is a combination of many things. One would assume that all it takes is a mutual understanding and love for a relationship to thrive, but the truth is, a relationship is a complex bond that needs all the attention it can get.
At the end of the day, it is important to realize that “Everybody is going to hurt you; you just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
There are people who are worth fighting for, and there are others that don’t even deserve your time. This refers both to romantic relationships and friendships.
So, if you are lucky to find someone who belongs in the first group, here are 20 powerful truths you need to acknowledge in order to maintain a meaningful relationship:
1. A SENSE OF INDIVIDUALITY
No matter the relationship, don’t ever let anyone force you to give up on yourself. Who you are makes you different from the rest of the world. Your sense of self should never be compromised for the sake of the relationship.
2. REAL INTENTIONS MEAN MORE THAN ACTIONS OR WORDS
Don’t be a fool to trust people’s actions or words. Words are shallow, and actions may intentionally show you what you want to know. Try to find the real intention behind their deeds. Analyze and understand their innermost reasons for their behavior.
3. AVOID MANIPULATION
Don’t ever let others influence the way you feel about yourself. Protect your integrity and always believe in what you’re capable of.
4. UNDERSTAND WHAT LOVE MEANS
Understand that love is free. It doesn’t possess anyone, nor it forces someone to love back. Love just exists. It’s unconditional, profound and powerful.
5. FIND YOURSELF
More importantly, understand yourself before you even start understanding others. Close your eyes and find what drives you, what fills your heart with passion, what makes you angry, what makes you cry…
6. LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH Heartbreaks
Don’t run away from heartbreaks. They are inevitable part of our life. Embrace every change, deal with the pain and let go of it. That’s how we grow.
7. EXPERIENCE THE HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS
Let yourself experience all human relationships wholly. Because only then you’ll be able to understand things more clearly.
8. AVOID SEEKING FOR APPROVAL
Don’t be afraid to be who you are. Even if that makes you a nobody in the world, stick to your grounds. Don’t ask for validation from people. Be proud of who you are and stay true to yourself, no matter what.
9. VALUE THE TRUTH
Learn to appreciate the truth, whether it’s a pleasant or unpleasant. Be grateful that you are aware of it. Being in an eternal state of oblivion is not going to do you any good.
10. KNOW WHAT HURTS YOU AND STAY AWAY FROM IT
Don’t let yourself be blinded by manipulation to a point where you no longer notice the things that are hurting you. Open your eyes, cut every harmful relationship off your life and protect yourself. It’s you we’re talking about. You should know better.
11.RECOGNIZE THE VIRTUES IN OTHERS
We’re often unaware of the virtues other people possess. Recognize them and cherish them even if you, yourself do not own them.
12. DON’T MISTAKE LOVE FOR DESIRE
Desire is temporary. It is an inexplicable impulse, a strong need for someone. It only lasts while it’s burning. Once the fire is out, the desire fades away. But, love… Oh, love… Love is endless and profound. It exists way beyond our physical real.
13. ENCOURAGE THE POSITIVITY WITHIN YOU
I know life is hard. We all face the consequences of our choices. But, if you could only encourage yourself to perceive this world in a more positive way, you’ll realize that life is more than just hard. It’s a challenging, extraordinary and amazing rollercoaster life. Be brave, and hop in it!
14. BE WHO YOU ARE
Don’t try to fit in. Don’t follow trends. Don’t make yourself something you aren’t. You are someone who is remarkable in every way, so why would you want to make yourself ordinary?
15. BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE
Be bold and strong enough to transform yourself into the person you want to be. Work on your strengths and accept your weaknesses, but never let anyone stop you from reaching your dreams.