Fidelity and truthfulness are the main values of a successful relationship. They constitute the foundation of a loyal and loving connection between two individuals. So, naturally, no one likes the idea of their partner seeing or sleeping with somebody else.
Unfortunately, as much as we like to make this world a prettier place where honesty and loyalty flourish infinitely, those devastating things do happen. People cheat and lie. They will do anything to have their greed satisfied. Even if it involves breaking someone’s heart in pieces.
That being said, if your relationship is based on the sacred principles of loyalty, sincerity and mutual understanding before everything else, you’re truly blessed.
However, if that isn’t the case, there are numerous ways to discover your partner’s affairs. No matter how good their lies are, eventually, sooner or later everything gets out in the open.
These are some of the most common signs that might indicate your partner is cheating on you. Look at the bigger picture, search for a changed pattern of behavior.
And remember, no matter how painful, the truth is the only thing that matters.
1. THEY ARE OVERPROTECTIVE OF THEIR PHONE
Privacy is a sacred thing that makes us who we are. It is perfectly normal to be protective of it. No one should ever dare to break it.
Relationships shouldn’t be based on joint Facebook accounts, passwords from social media accounts and constant snooping around the belongings of your partner.
However, if your partner becomes all of a sudden too overprotective of their phone, there might be something there, that they don’t want you to see.
2. THEY ARE LATE HOME FROM WORK
It is perfectly fine to come home a bit later than usual if you’ve worked overtime or had a coffee with a friend. However, if this becomes your partner’s frequent habit, it might actually be an excuse for seeing someone behind your back.
Dating and relationship advice and etiquette expert April Masini says, “When someone stops coming home at the regular time, on a regular basis, be wary. When a schedule changes and there’s no comment about why or what he or she is doing differently, it may be because your spouse is cheating on you.”
3. THEIR SEX DRIVE IS LOWER THAN USUAL
The sex drive tends to fluctuate due to extreme stress, malnutrition or a lack of physical activity. So, when a sex drive that has been high and pretty regular starts going lower, it is usually a sign of something else. They might no longer desire your attention because they get it someplace else.
Psychotherapist and author Tina B. Tessina, PhD., says, “Most women cheat because they feel emotionally deprived, and men are unfaithful because they often feel sexually deprived.”
4. THEY AREN’T PRESENT DURING SEX
Sex might not be the only thing in a relationship, but it is essential for a functional and healthy bond. And, when this intimate act is done with that special person, there are no suitable words that would describe the ecstasy we’re in.
So, when sex with your partner turns from passionate and steamy, to just plain boring, there’s definitely something going on. It might be just another dry spell, but it also might indicate that your partner has been getting their needs met someplace else.
5. THEY PAY SURPRISINGLY MORE ATTENTION TO THEIR APPEARANCE
Of course, it doesn’t mean that a person is cheating just because they like to take good care of their physical appearance. However, if this is something they’ve recently started doing along with some of these other signs, they might be trying to impress someone else.
Masini adds, “If your partner starts suddenly looking a lot better than he or she used to, they may be cheating.”
6. THEY OFTEN CHANGE THE SUBJECT
No matter how hard they try to hide an affair, their behavior might be just the thing that could eventually expose them.
If your partner keeps avoiding the subject and doesn’t reply with a straight answer, it is obvious they’re trying to hide something. Especially if there was a time when you two were honest with each other. A change in character is a serious signal.
7. THEY SHOWER AS SOON AS THEY GET HOME
It is ridiculous to say that taking a shower is a sign of cheating. However, if this is an activity they started practicing alongside with all the other signs, there’s something suspicious about it.
If they come home looking tense and they rush off to take a shower even before they give you a hug, it can be a sign that they’re desperately trying to wash away the proof that they were with another person.
8. THEY IGNORE YOU
And maybe one of the biggest signs of all is feeling ignored. Feeling left out. The feeling that you’re no longer loved or appreciated by your partner. The feeling that you are not good enough to please them.
If you notice a certain change in the way they’re treating you, it is best to start digging deeper. Start by confronting them and asking for the truth.