We, humans, are social creatures. And as such, we crave connection. We like to bond with people, we like to share both our happiness and our sorrow. That makes us feel understood, heard, loved, comforted.
And so we share. We open the doors to our worlds to people, we let them in on every little thing that makes us feel a certain way, we wear our heart on our sleeves, we share our entire lives with others without even considering that one day some of these people can take advantage of this information and use it against us…
I’m not trying to sound like an annoying, cautious and overly pessimistic person here. The truth is, there are certain things in life that should always be kept private.
Here are a few of them:
1.Your private life. Sure, some things should be definitely shared with your friends. After all, that’s why friends are here for, right? However, there are some parts of your life that you should always keep to yourself. Be open about the things that you are comfortable with, but maintain your boundaries. Your life is nobody else’s but your own.
2.Your relationship issues. If you have to say something to your partner, you should say it to their face. Asking for advice from your friends is fine, but only to a certain point. The issues that you and your partners face should be resolved between the two of you. No one else should be involved. So, keep your love life to yourself. Unless of course, your partner is a toxic, narcissistic person who makes your life a living hell. In that case, don’t hesitate to ask for help.
3.Your finances. This one speaks for itself. What’s there more to say? When it comes to money, people are prepared to do the worst to get some. That is why your financial status is something that should only concern you. The more you reveal your income, the more they’ll try to put you down.
4.Your weaknesses. Be very careful to whom you confide about your biggest weaknesses. Not every person you hang out with is your friend and not every person who is nice to you really means you well. Protect your privacy and stay guarded when it comes to your personal life.
5.Your dreams. Do you know that the more you share your dreams and goals with people, the less motivation you actually have to work hard and fulfill them? I don’t know about you, but I’ve felt it more than a few times. Sharing my future plans with people has been nothing but discouraging to me. To be honest, the whole thing only puts more pressure on you and eventually stops you from being productive. And we don’t really want that, do we?
6.Your family problems. I’ve said it once, and I will say a million times more. What goes on in your family is no one’s concern but your own. And let’s be honest. Sharing family problems with your friends is not only awkward, but it is also absolutely inconsiderate to your family. Revealing too much to the wrong people can definitely make more damage than good.
7.Your honest deeds. I know we live in a society where people love to share every little thing about their life and be praised for it. I know, we have some serious issues for doing that. But here’s the truth. If you really, really want to do a certain change in this world, do it because you care, not because you want the whole world to know. Humbleness is the highest virtue that one could possess. If you want to help someone, do it for them, not for the glory. These small acts of kindness are the purest when they go unseen… Never ever forget that.