Surviving through a relationship with a narcissistic person is a life-changing and a traumatic experience.
Their narcissistic disorder and self-absorbed personality make them feel the need to manipulate and control the emotions of the people around them. Luckily, you recognized the potential threat and managed to get out alive and well.
And, like every other relationship, it wasn’t easy to put an end. But, it is important to understand that the breakdown wasn’t your fault. Deep inside of you, you know that you did even more than you could possibly do. But, it was never enough.
After all, we have one life to live and it’s best for us to make it a comfortable and amazing place to exist in. Here are 8 signs that you are finally getting over your narcissistic ex and you’re moving on:
1. YOU EASILY SPOT MEANINGLESS AND MANIPULATIVE FLATTERY
Getting out alive from the manipulative relationship with the narcissist not only saved your life, but it also made you wiser and more cautious.
You learned that sneaky and harmful individuals can be masked into the people you love and adore the most. You understood that not everyone out there lives their life based on righteous, moral values.
You learned the hardest way that kind words and grandiose promises will not always be about you, but rather, it will be about them and everything they want.
2. YOU DON’T WANT TO TEXT OR CALL THEM
There’s not a single feeling inside of you. It was a long, difficult period in your life, but you did it. You struggled thinking that you miss them, and you can’t live without them, but that was only the hardship of leaving the familiar routine in your life.
Once you took time to detox from your ex, you realized that you were empty. They might have taken away your will for happiness, but eventually, you’ll get back on your feet and embrace life with both hands!
3. YOU IGNORE THEIR ATTEMPTS TO REACH YOU
You broke it off clearly stating that you don’t want to see them or hear about them, but they still make attempts to get in touch with you.
There is a point where their continuous activity to “kiss and makeup” no longer wakes those butterflies in your tummy, but rather it makes you seek and annoyed. And when that happens, you know that you’ve started moving on without them.
4. YOU’VE STARTED HELPING OTHER PEOPLE THAT GO THROUGH THE SIMILAR DIFFICULTIES
One of the most obvious signs that you finally moved on with your life. You feel no anger, nor sorrow while talking about your past.
You actually decided to use your experience as an example and started to share your knowledge in order to spread awareness.
This shows you’ve grown from all the pain you thought it would damage you. You are a whole new person.
5. YOUR MENTAL AND PHYSICAL STATE HAS IMPROVED
Being a part of a harmful and toxic relationship can have severe effects on your body, soul, and mind. The intensity of the pain inflicted on you, whether it’s emotional or physical has the power to scar you for life. And that’s exactly what happens in most cases.
Many people struggle with these painful traumas and take the low road getting addicted to alcohol, drugs, excessive eating disorder and in the worst-case scenarios, some people decide to just end everything. This is never the answer.
However, you were lucky enough to have a great support from all the people in your life and the healing process began right away.
6. YOU STARTED A WHOLE NEW LIFE DEDICATED ON YOURSELF
There is no more pain, no fear for your life. You wake up in the morning feeling relieved and content with the place you are right now. There’s no one in this world that can control feelings and actions. Only you have the power over your life.
You are finally a new person. Reborn from the ashes.
7. YOU COULDN’T CARE LESS ABOUT THEIR CURRENT LOVE LIFE
The fact that you are through with the whole narcissistic experience, only shows that you no longer care about their current dating life.
At the same time, you are aware that holding a grudge will only make it worse, so for your own good and for your own happiness, you decided to forgive them.
You’ve taken care of your life and you’re no longer interested in hearing about them.
8. YOU ARE MAKING CONSTRUCTIVE CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE
There was a healing period in which you isolated yourself from everyone in order to take care of the open wounds. And for quite a long time, you struggled to get over. You struggled to find a will to be happy again.
But, you did it. You are breathing again and you’re alive. You’ve changed and you’re ready to face the beautiful challenges life has to offer.
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