Every relationship, no matter how perfect it is, will eventually face difficulties and take the wrong turn to the rocky and secluded road. Which is perfectly normal, considering that every human being on this plant has their own beliefs and their own individual madness.
However, there are certain behaviors that couldn’t be classified in the “rough patches” category of the relationship. So, if you notice that someone is trying to mistreat you in a malevolent, and harmful way, you better get the hell away from them.
The same goes for you. You may not be ready to admit in front of everyone, but it is essential to understand the importance of your actions.
Here are some of the most alarming signs that show when a person is playing a toxic game with their partner. Read on and see if you recognize some of these behaviors in yourself.
1. YOU STARTED MAKING MEAN JOKES ON THEIR ACCOUNT
It started innocently enough as a part of your inside jokes, but after a while, you started making mean and hurtful “jokes” on their account. Knowing all of their deepest weaknesses and insecurities, made it only worse.
If you recognize this trait in you, it is never too late to change it. Bullying and humiliating other might be the root of a bigger psychological condition that lies within you. Start to work on yourself.
2. THE BLAME IS NEVER YOURS
Admitting that you’re sometimes wrong can be difficult, but remaining humble and truthful at all costs, is the one thing that matters the most.
So, if you find yourself in the middle of a dispute with your partner and you feel like putting the blame on them instead of resolving the issue, you need to just stop!
Did you ever think about the way they feel? Would you like to be treated that way? … I thought so.
So, please count to 10, breathe or do whatever it calms you down and just try to settle things in a peaceful way.
3. YOU OFTEN SAY HURTFUL THINGS IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT
We all have had a moment when we were so full of everything that’s happening and just exploded all over our dearest people. The truth is, we can be a bit touchy-feely sometimes and as a result, we are most likely to behave improperly.
However, the thing that matters is what we’re we willing to do after the bomb is dropped.
You make sure to say, “I’m sorry” and never do the same again.
4. YOU STARTED USING THE “ULTIMATUM” METHOD
The “It will be my way or nothing at all” behavior is very harmful to your relationship. Using ultimatums in order to get what you want is an immature and a selfish way of getting the things you want.
Instead, take time to actually talk to your partner and listen to what they have to say. Compromises are the best alternative.
5. YOU DELIBERATELY “PUNISH” THEM
Now, admit it, have you ever used the silent treatment as a way of punishing your partner?
Most of you will never confess the things that occur behind closed doors. But, if it’s in you, you’ll recognize it.
Using all sorts of emotional punishments to get them to obey you are not going to work. Instead of channeling all of your frustrations on them, you need to resolve any issue like decent human beings.
6. YOU CAN’T CONTROL YOUR TEMPER
If you are hot-headed and you often experience failure of you anger-management system, then you might need to actually check yourself, before you wreck everything else.
Losing your temper and insulting your partner are signs that you have a deeper issue you need to resolve. Step back, calm down and find a way to maintain a normal conversation.
7. YOUR NEEDS ARE THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS
On top of it all, you behave like your needs are more important than theirs. You act like you are entitled to all of the attention in the world, but you clearly aren’t.
That’s no way to treat your partner. Either talk things through or break it off. Nobody will have the nerve to remain your submissive marionette.
8. YOU SHOW NO EMOTIONS
You have turned cold as a stone. There are no warm embraces, no kind words, no nothing. And being unresponsive towards your partner can make them doubt your true feelings.
If there’s still something inside of you, make sure to show it, but if there’s not a single emotion left for them inside your heart, the best thing is to just walk away.
You know what they say, “No reason to stay, is a good reason to go”. If there’s no more love in the relationship, be brave, tell the truth and just leave them be.
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