The truth is, your private life is your private life. Your own business. So, keep things private. Have more than you show, speak less than you know.
1. Your dreams and goals. I know, I know. There is nothing more exhilarating and pleasing than telling someone about everything that makes your heart sparkle with joy. Letting them in on your greatest, wildest dreams. Opening your entire soul to them and revealing tiny bits of your exciting future plans because sharing it makes you even more excited. I know you are familiar with that feeling.
The truth is, we’ve all done it. But you know what? I’ve noticed that every time I get all jumpy and thrilled to let people know what my next move is, I lose my motivation to actually do the thing that I bragged about… And it turns out, I am not alone. And it’s kind of accurate. The pressure of knowing that my secret is out there and people are not expecting something of me has made me lose my motivation, more than once.
2. Your relationship issues. The juicy bits from your personal life. Those things that go on between you and your partner. Those things that make you YOU, those intimate conversations, secrets, methods of dealing with your relationship problems, those habits of yours…
All of that is called intimacy. It’s something that belongs in your relationship. Something that only you two should know about. And, please, don’t get me wrong. It’s one thing to share some of these things with your best friends, and a completely another to go from one person to another and tell them how your relationship works.
3. Your financial status. Your income. Your savings. Your salary. Your bank account balance. Call it how you want it. But know one thing. The money that you receive for your work is something that concerns only you. And your family. No one else should know how much money you earn and how you choose to spend it. We live in a very dangerous and selfish world, after all. Some people would literally do anything to have your life.
4. Your noble, selfless, honest deeds towards other people. Do I need to explain this further? People who do good, honest deeds from their hearts do not need to validated and praised for their actions. The fact that they’ve helped another human being, another soul is a validation enough for them. Good deeds should be done with intention, not for attention. Full stop.
5. Your biggest fears and weaknesses. As I said, it’s one thing to share your deepest, darkest secrets and fears with your friends and family and a completely another thing to share these things with others. Not everyone out there means you well. Not everyone wants to help you. So, be careful. Be careful who you trust.
6. Any uncomfortable and shameful truths you know about other people. Don’t be that person. that petty, big-mouthed individual that goes from person to person and gossips about the lives of others. Don’t waste your precious time and life on such trivialities. Mind your business.
7. Your family secrets. Despite being awkward, sharing family problems is also inconsiderate to your family. Your friends, no matter how close they seem to be, should not know everything that’s going on behind closed doors.
We all have our own madness and point of view which makes us different from one another. Revealing too much can sometimes create an awkward image and cause much trouble than you can imagine.