Anger is a very powerful emotion. It has a strong effect on others and therefore if you get angry regularly, others will start avoiding you like the plague. On the other hand, if you keep the anger bottled up inside you, you will eventually explode at some point and it will lead to actions that you will regret later on.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to understand and recognize emotions and use them wisely while making decisions. The higher the EQ, the more capable a person is to deal with their emotions and handle any situation effectively. Anger is one of those emotions.
For instance, a situation may present itself which will make you angry only because you don’t see everything that’s behind it. You might think that is an injustice, but the reality can be different. Bearing this in mind is what will keep you calm and away from any situation that doesn’t involve you.
Moreover, here are 6 other ways that emotionally intelligent and mature people implement to deal with anger.
1. THEY ARE EXTREMELY SELF-AWARE
If they are enraged, they count to ten and wait. They know that if they dish their anger out to other people their communication will definitely be bad. They also know that when they are angry their bran is hijacked, and they can’t think straight. Therefore, they wait until their anger settles down and get their composure back and then they talk it out.
2. THEY UNDERSTAND THEIR EMOTIONS
People often mistake hurt or sadness with anger. Sometimes we think we are angry at someone while the truth is that we feel sad or rejected by them. Emotionally intelligent people are more in tune with their emotion and they can make a clear distinction between them. When they understand what emotion, they are feeling they can deal with it more effectively.
3. THEY FIGURE OUT IF THEY ARE MISPLACING BLAME
Emotionally mature people understand that during moments of anger, they are more likely to blame others for the way they feel. They know that when they are stressed, nervous, overworked, tired, or sad, they can easily shift all the blame to the first person they see, and that way drive away people they love. Therefore, they are more careful as to not blame others for their condition.
4. THEY GET CURIOUS
Instead of focusing on themselves when they are angry, frustrated, or sad, emotionally intelligent people are curious in finding out why the other person is behaving in a certain way. They don’t confront the other person, but genuinely ask them why they are acting the way they do. Moreover, emotionally mature people know that usually most people don’t have bad intentions and they don’t mean to hurt others on purpose. They try to understand them because everyone makes mistakes.
5. THEY ARE COMPASSIONATE
Emotionally intelligent people understand that showing respect and appreciation for the other person’s point of view can really make a difference and improve any conflicting situation. They are compassionate, civil, and empathetic. They listen to what the other person has to say without interrupting or judging them. That way they can communicate without any party getting defensive.
6. THEY ARE SKILLFUL COMMUNICATORS
They don’t begin every conversation with the word “I”. Instead, they are always asking the other person what’s their perspective and sincerely show interest in what they have to say. They are more than willing to make compromises and most importantly, they are not self-centered, and they don’t believe they are always the one who is right.
Do you know another way of dealing with anger? If you do, please share your thoughts with us in the comment section.