The truth is, every relationship goes through a rough patch every once in a while. No matter how much you love someone, it is inevitable to sometimes get into an argument and fight. In the end, we’re all human beings with different ideas, opinions, and preferences. It’s a part of our nature to disagree.
However (and this a big however), there is a big difference between an occasional rough patch and a relationship turning toxic. If you, at one point catch yourself belittling your partner and disrespecting them, you might be the one who is actually destroying your relationship.
Here are 6 signs that your toxic behavior is what makes your relationship insufferable:
1. YOU ALWAYS PUT THE BLAME ON YOUR PARTNER
Taking responsibility and admitting the blame when it’s your fault is an essential part of being in a relationship. A compromise is made by two parties who agree to work for themselves instead of against themselves.
So, if you are someone who constantly blames your partner for every problem in your relationship know that you might be the main reason why your relationship is falling apart.
Reanalyze your actions and rethink your reasons for staying in that relationship.
2. YOU ALWAYS LEAVE THEM WITH AN ULTIMATUM
A relationship should never be based on fear. It should not make you angry, miserable or sick to your stomach. It should inspire you to grow, to be free and to be exactly who you want to be. If you are doing your best to cage your partner instead of letting them be who they are, you are the one who is destroying your relationship.
Threatening your partner that it has to be your way or nothing at all means that you do not care about their opinion, only your own.
3. YOU HUMILIATE THEM IN FRONT OF OTHERS
There’s a big difference between joking on someone’s account and insulting them on purpose. It’s all fun and games until you start to mercilessly shame your partner in front of everyone.
Whatever your reasons, know that any unsolved issue that you have with your partner should be discussed on your own. Be respectful enough to let them know about anything that might bother you. You should be able to talk to your partner about these things.
4. YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO CONTROL YOUR IMPULSIVE BEHAVIOR
If you catch yourself going mad every time they start talking to you and you can’t seem to keep that anger in check, it might actually be you who is responsible for the crisis in your relationship.
Attacking your partner for merely breathing around you and not being able to control your impulses may be signs that you have a lot of repressed emotions inside of you. Calm yourself and try to find the root of your problem.
5. YOU ONLY CARE ABOUT YOUR NEEDS
We all do, but if at some point you stop giving a damn about what your partner wants and start focusing on what you want, that is a sign that your relationship will not last much longer.
Loving another person means being able to make compromises for the sake of your love. If you only care about what you want, it’s maybe time to stop torturing your partner and leave them for good. If you have unresolved issues, find a way to solve them on your own. No one deserves to suffer for something that you are going through.
6. YOU DELIBERATELY PUNISH THEM WITH THE SILENT TREATMENT
Do you often give your partner the silent treatment instead of actually telling them about what bothers you?
If the answer is yes, you may be the reason why your relationship is hanging on by a thread. I don’t know what’s going on in your mind, but you have to realize that your partner is an equal part of the relationship.
You cannot just punish them when you feel like it. There are plenty of other ways you can resolve your issues. But if you have no intention of doing that, leave that person alone and search for your happiness someplace else.
This article is written by Stephanie Reeds. If you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected] and I will be happy to give you my opinion.