Emotionally immature people are one of the worst types because they hide their flaws and insecurities through lies and manipulation. And because they have low self-esteem, they get validation and strength from hurting others.
Here’s how you can recognize if you are being played by an emotional manipulator.
1. They Play ‘The Bait And Switch’ Game
Whenever you two are arguing, they will always turn the argument around thus making you the source of all the problems even though you didn’t do anything wrong. They use this tactic to manipulate you into doing what they want. They figure, at some point, you’ll have to back down and admit they are right because you will get tired of fighting. Don’t fall for that!
2. They Blame You For Everything
Because they have a very low self-esteem, they always put the blame on you for anything bad that happens in your relationship because they want you to feel just as miserable as they are feeling. Plus, they want to look good in other people’s eyes. That’s how they get the attention and the confidence they need. Clever, huh?
3. They Shame You
An insecure and emotionally immature person will shame you, put you down, and treat you like shit because that’s their way of masking their own insecurities and hidden fears. They do it because they don’t want you to be better than them (they know you are). They want you to feel that you are not good enough for them and feel lucky that they chose you as their partner because they are afraid that you’ll leave them once you see them for who they are.
4. They Put You On An Emotional Roller Coaster
One minute everything is perfect and they are the most loving and kind human beings on earth, and the next they are moody, cranky, and act like you did something wrong. They use this tactic to make you feel insecure about their feelings for you. And by you, overthinking what’s wrong, they get all the attention they need to feel important.
5. They Act Just Like Assholes
They may act as the perfect partner when you two are out with friends, but the minute you walk home, they turn into a complete jerk. That’s because when they are around other people, they want to cover up their obnoxious personality because they want other people to see them in a beautiful light.
6. They Gaslight You
They lie to your face. They make you question your reality and your sanity. They do it by constantly questioning you and your behavior. This manipulative technique is so subtle but so dangerous, that at the end – you may end up losing your whole perception of reality and what’s right and wrong.
If you have a person like this in your life, please do yourself a favor and cut any contact with them before it’s too late and the damage is irreparable!