Most of us will or have found themselves in a relationship with a narcissist. Short-term or long-term, the damage that this relationship has done to the heart of the non-narcissist is not something that is easily reparable.
But why do non-narcissists get attracted to narcissists? Here are 4 brutally honest reasons why.
1. The Very Qualities That Make Someone A Narcissist Are What Make Them So Appealing
A narcissist is someone who radiates self-confidence. They feed their ‘grandiosity’ by feeling entitled to always be admired by others. Therefore, if you catch their eye, they will do anything to make you their new admirer. They will use their charm, sense of humor, charisma, they will tell you everything you want to hear until you cave in and fall in love with them. Plus, since narcissists are all about validation, they try to always look their best – from impeccably groomed clothes and a seducing perfume to a shiny new car – a narcissist knows how to leave a great impression.
2. The Sense of Entitlement Combined with Their Boldness Make Them Look Sexy and Appear to Be A Good Possible Mate
A narcissist just knows how to do everything and get anything they set their mind to. They are assertive, bold, daring, and extremely confident. They have an aura that makes people respect them and have difficulty saying ‘no’ to them. The narcissist is very much aware of the impact they have on others and they know how to use it to their advantage.
3. They Are Masters of Playing Games & Luring People in Their Life
It’s not that narcissists don’t want to be in a relationship. They do. Actually, they need to be in a relationship for meeting their need for validation. The only trouble is that they get bored easily and they start thinking about their new ‘conquest’ while still being in a relationship. Thus, they are prone to cheat and immediately enter a new relationship when they end the previous one. Why does someone fall for this behavior? Usually, it’s because of the narcissist’s alluring charm and charisma and the inability of their partner to see them for who they are and recognize their nasty tactics and lies.
4. They Are Unforgiving Which Makes Their Partner Fear Losing Them
Narcissists are easily offended on one hand, and extremely unforgiving on the other. They act aloof and cold when someone acts in a way they don’t want. And this ‘coldness’ and ‘aloofness’ is what makes the narcissists being perceived as worthy of respect. Everyone values a person who doesn’t take bullshit from anyone. However, the only problem with narcissists is that they are doing it out of contempt and manipulation.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, please be aware of the fact that narcissists are the most dangerous people to deal with. The first thing you should do is end the relationship immediately and block any contact you have with them. I know it will be hard, but the only correct way of dealing with a narcissist is refusing to deal with them at all!
So, make yourself a favor and save yourself.