Insecure men hide behind the veil of emotional unavailability and manipulation.
Their deepest fears and the lack of confidence is something they could never show the world, so they decide to disguise their true emotions and manifest a darker, more egoistic behavior through the subtle art of manipulation.
They arrive into your life as these beautiful, vulnerable and innocent individuals who are more than happy to share every weakness and open their soul to you.
But, after a while, you come to realize that their insecurities are the main trigger that unleashes a completely different persona. A manipulative creature who lacks self-respect and lives only to hurt others.
So, to prevent this from happening in the first place, here are 4 most common, brutal mind games emotionally insecure men usually play on women:
1. THEY GHOST ON YOU
An emotionally insecure and unavailable man will tell you how much he loves and then in a blink of an eye, he’ll turn into the biggest douchebag you’ve ever seen. He’ll disappear into thin air. He’ll ghost on you and then come back like nothing ever happened.
You see, his insecurities are his mind’s biggest weapon against himself.
If you find yourself in this situation, be brave and face him head-on. Don’t be afraid to stand your ground and speak up when something is bothering you. You are in this relationship too, right?
2. THEY PLAY THE “EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER” WITH YOU
We’ve all had that really nice, magical dinner, or a moment together where you felt that finally, everything is the way it’s supposed to be. You just enjoyed your partner’s company and it is safe to say that it was your best date ever.
But, then in the light of the day, you notice that his behavior has somehow changed. He magically transformed into a cold-hearted, heartless creature.
When this happens, it is essential to talk to him. Try to find out if there’s a legitimate reason for his behavior. If there’s none and he keeps denying his rudeness, go ahead and make yourself clear that you won’t accept to be a part of his childish mind games.
3. THEY MERCILESSLY SHAME YOU
When a person uses offensive jokes and dark humor to laugh at someone else’s expense, it is clear that they are only doing it because of their hidden insecurities.
Emotionally insecure people have the desperate need to hide away their genuine feelings. Chances are, they are not satisfied with their lives. They are probably miserable.
So, naturally, the best way to keep their insecurities intact and their ego boosted is to shame you in front of people.
4. THEY BLAME YOU
Oh, the never-ending circle of guilt-tripping. He blames you for your disagreements. He blames you for his failures. He blames you for yelling at you. He blames you for your paranoia.
The thing is, an emotionally insecure person doesn’t like to be reminded that they are wrong. Because in their eyes, they are flawless.
This is one of their common weapons on their ultimate quest for power.
So, when this happens, it is best to immediately face them head on and strike them with the stone-cold truth.
Let them know that you won’t allow being manipulated once again.
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