While we like to imagine a psychopath as a violent and twisted person who looks like his inner darkness was etched out on his face. However, everybody can be a psychopath, and you may even be unaware of some that are thriving by your side.
They are, first and foremost, social predators that lack any conscience. They use their manipulative nature to the best of their skill to charm and gain advantage out of the people they target, and they don’t make a difference between one and another.
Psychopaths don’t spare anyone if they want to achieve something, and they are ready to prey on co-workers, friends, lovers, and even family members. They do this by modifying their personality to seem like the person they think you want them to be, and they are masters at it.
In fact, as author and co-founder of PsychopathFree.com, Jackson Mackenzie, explains, “you will likely find a psychopath in your life incredibly thoughtful, sympathetic, and feel an unusually deep connection with them – until they no longer need anything from you.”
So, how can you sniff these masters of disguise out and remove them from your life?
Here are 3 phrases that psychopaths tend to use in order to gain an advantage. If you find that you too have fallen under the influence of what seems like a normal set of words, it’s obviously because they were used in the right moment and at the right time by a psychopath.
“You overanalyze everything.”
It’s in a psychopath’s nature to make their targets feel on-edge or paranoid. And when you start questioning their behavior, it will be a likely scenario that they start accusing you of overanalyzing that (and every other) situation.
“Psychopaths aim to make you doubt your intuition by constantly planting hints to make you feel anxious and then blaming you for having that anxiety,” explains Mackenzie.
The terrifying thing about it is that they enjoy seeing you feeling outraged and utterly shocked by the way they are trying to negate your sound reasoning with just 3 words, which leads to the next scenario.
“I hate drama.”
Of course, they hate the drama they’re intentionally creating – or perhaps they don’t hate it so much as long as you quit with it and leave it to them. In truth, as Mackenzie writes, you’ll soon come to discover there’s more drama surrounding them than anyone you’ve ever known.”
And once you start showing your frustration and concerns that have risen as a result of their horrible behavior, they won’t think twice before declaring their ‘hatred of drama’ in order to make you feel bad about your behavior.
And before you know it, all of your justified thoughts and reactions and all of your arguments about their behavior vanish into thin air because they make you turn inwards and analyze your own behavior.
“You misunderstood me.”
The main goal of a psychopath is to make you think that whatever you don’t like about them is a problem you need to come to terms with in your head – because it’s happening only there. Of course, this is not true but that’s their aim.
For this, they will go to any lengths of denial and taking words out of context to convince you that you are going crazy and that whatever is frustrating you is a result of some kind of mental condition you’re not aware of.
Also known as gaslighting, this technique involves blatant actions or expressions which will later be either a subject to the victim’s ‘misinterpretation’ or they will be denied having ever taken place. “The fact is, you understood what they said perfectly fine. They’re just trying to make you doubt your sanity,” explains Mackenzie.
If you find yourself in this cycle, it’s best that you turn on your fight or flight mode. I remember having to deal with a psychopath like this, so I turned my ‘fight’ mode on until I managed to shatter their self-perception (just so they get a dose of their own reality). However, if you don’t feel like wasting your time with that person, simply walk away and let them feast on others.
Have you had an experience with a psychopath?