Humans are earthly creatures who are raised to believe that giving too many f*cks means that you genuinely care about something.
However, I believe that somewhere down the line we eventually get so caught up that we pretty much end up wasting our entire lives on meaningless frustrations and events that are completely out of our control.
It seems to me that when it comes to causing a scene or overreacting, we are the masters of dramatizing insignificant and trivial parts of our lives.
But, with age eventually comes wisdom.
The older we grow, the humbler and quitter we become. We finally realize that we need to carefully select and give our f*cks for things that matter, people who help us grow, not encourage us to fail.
Here are 17 things that are likely to be less important to you in 17 years:
1. The unavoidable frustrations you face every day. Half of the things you perceive as your problems in this exact moment, probably won’t even matter to you a month from now. So, don’t let those things shake you and break you.
2. Those little, meaningless failures that make you feel too self-conscious and concerned. Success is our ultimate goal in life, but failures are what life lessons are made of. Failures are not something you should be afraid of. They always lead your way.
3. The need to make everything perfect. The whole problem with disappointments is our ridiculously high and unrealistic expectations about life. There’s no such thing as perfection. Don’t let yourself fall down that rabbit hole. Make sure to always do your best in life.
4. Having the perfect amount of confidence before making the first step. Yes, confidence is that inner feeling that empowers us to move mountains in order to reach our goals. But, confidence isn’t something that happens overnight. It is something that you gradually build. You get out of your comfort zone, you risk, you make changes, you keep making moves and you eventually find your confidence.
5. Being a loud, online activist without actually making the real difference. Strong determination and hard work make the job done. Raising awareness online is good, but you can’t achieve anything if you avoid getting out of your room.
6. The shallow and pretended relationships that made you more popular, but never helped you grow. It’s nice to have friends. But, as one wise man once said: “A friend to all is a friend to none”- Aristotle. The older you grow you became more aware that the fewer the friends the better the life. The real, genuine people in our lives can be counted on one hand.
7. The relief you get from quick fixes. The older and wiser we get, we realize how important quality over quantity is. We understand that while a quick and painful fix to a problem might be tempting, it’s not a solution that will last a lifetime. Anything worth achieving requires blood, sweat and tears.
8. Maintaining a detailed planner about everything you need to do in life. Being organized is a responsible and nice way to live your life. But, after a while you’ll realize that sometimes there’s no such thing that can beat spontaneity.
9. The desperate need to be in total control of things. The older we get, we eventually realize the illusion that we control things. The thing is, we can’t control the external factors. The only thing we can do is to control our response to those external factors.
10. Blaming others for your misfortune. Your karma is your business. And as we grow older, we begin to realize the bittersweet truth behind that saying. We become more responsible for our actions. We finally realize that happiness is something that can only be found within.
11. Proving yourself to others and seeking validation for your work. Your work and success depend on you. You shouldn’t ask for approval or a green light from others. You can ask for advice, but the last word should always be yours.
12. Devoting your life on saving people from their own drama. Let’s be honest. You are no superman. You can try helping people, but at the end of the day, we all have our own nightmares we need to face. Don’t get sucked in other people’s drama.
13. The selfish and inconsiderate things other people usually say and do. If you try to live your life by taking everything personal, it’s likely that you’ll be offended and deeply hurt for the rest of your days. Carry on, and follow your inner voice.
14. Winning every argument. You know why? Because it simply isn’t worth it. In a year, you will laugh at your own stupidity and the need to get into fights in order to prove yourself.
15. Judging people for their failures. You’ll never know what happens inside a person’s mind or life. You should never judge a book by its cover. Be nice and kind. Always.
16. Luxury and unnecessary materialistic possessions. The older you grow and the wiser you are, the more you’ll realize that materialistic possessions will never satisfy your hunger for more. The older you get you understand the importance of spending money on experiences instead of possessions.
17. Giving a f*ck about distant future possibilities. At the end, the future will be future. You can’t predict it, you can’t see it, and you shouldn’t stress over it. The good, worthy life happens in this moment. The things you are you going to choose in this moment will eventually determine your future.
So, what’s it going to be?