Relationships take a lot of work. Even when you marry the person of your dreams, who you love more than anything, you’ll still need to actively work on things. Problems can happen in any relationship if you don’t keep a check on them properly.
Being committed to someone should be about mutual joy and love. These are the 17 rules that you need to follow to have a happy marriage.
1. Always Express Your Love
A simple “I love you” can mean so much. Don’t expect your partner to just know how much you love them. Tell them what they mean to you whenever you can.
2. Focus on the Good
If you only see the problems in your marriage, especially smaller problems, you’re dooming it to failure. Focus on all the positives, how much you love them, and all of the fun times that you two have together.
3. Support Each Other
You and your spouse should be each other’s biggest source of support. Always be in their corner and help them whenever they need it. Even if they just need someone to be there, be that person for them.
4. Always Listen
When your significant other speaks, listen to them. Hear what they have to say and take an interest in them. Even if it’s not a topic of interest to you, if it’s important to them then you should care.
5. Remember That No One is Perfect
Don’t expect them to be perfect all the time. We all have flaws and we all make mistakes. You need to be able to accept the small things and be okay with their flaws.
Holding grudges is like having a demon around, sabotaging your marriage. Forgive your partner for their mistakes. If it really can’t be forgiven, then maybe it’s not a marriage worth staying in.
7. Be Happy When the Other Person Succeeds
Share the excitements of your spouse’s accomplishments. When they’re happy, they want someone to be there to be happy for them too.
8. Work on Your Problems
You can’t just sweep all your problems under the rug and expect your marriage to survive. When issues arise, you need to work together to overcome them straight away before they grow worse.
9. Look After Yourself
If you’re not looking after yourself properly, your marriage will suffer because of it. Practice self-care and look after your own needs so that you can feel happier and more fulfilled.
10. Build a Positive Future Together
Don’t dredge up the past and focus on everything that went wrong before. Work towards building an amazing future together. Put in the hard work now to reap all the regards in later years.
11. Put Your Marriage First
Your marriage should be your priority. If something is threatening your relationship, cut it out. Don’t let something avoidable ruin what you have.
12. Check In Regularly
Ask your partner how they’re feeling, both in themselves and about the relationship. Tell them how you feel as well. By doing this you can find any potential issues and stamp them out before they become a huge problem.
13. Express Your Needs
Don’t suffer because you feel like you’re bothering your spouse. When you need something from them or from the relationship, tell them.
14. Spend More Time Together
Even after years of being together, you two will still need to bond. Spend as much time as you can together doing something fun. Try having a weekly or monthly date night doing something that you both enjoy.
15. Don’t Panic When Things Get Tough
Inevitably, every relationship is going to go through some rough patches. The secret is to not freak out when things are going south. Stick through it, be there for each other, and work together to make it better.
16. Surprise Each Other
Always try to surprise each other with something thoughtful. It could be a gift, a date, or a romantic dinner together. Whatever it is that you want to do, try to keep the relationship exciting.
17. Always Remember the Little Things
It’s the little things that you do for each other that mean the most. Kiss them just because you can, give them flowers, tell them how wonderful they are. Don’t forget about these small things and you will create a wonderful marriage.
It’s easy to get caught up with everyday life and forget to invest time in your marriage. Be there with your partner to keep things running smoothly. If you truly love them, then be willing to put in the effort to make it work.
Do you agree with our list? What are your tips for a happy marriage?