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12 Things You Need To Know If You Love An Overthinker


No relationship in the world is completely straightforward. In every single one, there are some issues that can cause difficulties to arise. For some couples, it could be that they have a fear of commitment, for others it may be that they have a mental illness to deal with. In many relationships, however, their main issue is that one of the people involved is a chronic overthinker.

So, if you’re in a relationship with someone like this, there are some things that you need to be prepared for. These are 12 things you need to know if you love an overthinker.

1. They’re Not Crazy

I know it may seem like it sometimes, but they’re really not being crazy. The sad reality is that their overthinking nature just makes them do or say things that may seem odd to some people. As a result, they can end up looking completely insane.

2. They’re Completely Genuine

This is a person who has absolutely no time for lies and deceit. They always mean what they say and wouldn’t dare take you for a fool. Along with that, they absolutely have your best intentions at heart.

3. You Need To Be Clear

It’s going to become increasingly obvious to you just how easy it is to send them into a spiral of overthinking and paranoia. So, you’ll need to do your best to be as clear as you can with what you say to them.

4. They Will Feel Insecure

Along with analyzing other people’s behavior, they will also analyze their own. They’ll question and judge everything that they do or say and can become increasingly insecure because of it.

5. They’re Not The Best Decision-Makers

Every decision that they need to make comes with countless choices. Likewise, every one of those choices comes with infinite outcomes. Understandably, this will often be too much for your overthinking partner to handle.

6. Surprises Aren’t Always A Good Thing

Sure, it’s easy to think that everyone loves a surprise, but maybe not this person. For them, surprises are terrifying, even if they’re something positive. So, you should be 100% sure before you plan something without telling them about it first.

7. They Will Need Reassurance

Overthinking makes you insecure and unsure of everything that you do. It can convince you that everyone hates you and that you’re just a burden. Because of that, you may need to reassure your significant other from time to time that you really do care about them.

8. You Need To Be Compassionate

Your partner already knows that dealing with them isn’t an easy task. Despite that, it’s still important that you try to understand where they’re coming from sometimes.

9. They’ll Send You Random Messages

Every now and again, when you least expect it, you’re going to receive a text message from them. In it, they’re either going to be freaking out about something seemingly insignificant or wondering if they’ve done something to upset you.

10. They’re Great at Living in the Moment

The future is scary for an overthinker. However, living in the moment is something that they excel at. Those are the times when they can let go of all their fears and just be alive and happy.

11. They Believe in Love

Although they may overreact sometimes and question everything that you do, that doesn’t mean that they don’t love you. On the contrary, they probably love you more than anything else in the world. Their overthinking nature may make them seem distant sometimes, but in reality, they’re closer to you than to anyone else.

12. It’s Not Their Fault

Believe me, they would change if they could. They’re trying every day to improve themselves and to let go of their fears. Despite their effort, however, it’s just not something that they can change overnight.

Being with someone like that isn’t always the easiest thing in the world, but if you love them enough it will all be worth it. Sure, they may obsess and worry, but they wouldn’t do that if they didn’t care about you. So, give them patience and time to grow. Trust me, they will give you their whole heart in return.

Do you know someone who is a chronic overthinker? Share this article with them and find out if they agree with our list.

Eva Jackson