Getting married is one of the biggest decisions in a person’s life. Many people tend to perceive it lightly, almost like marriage is some kind of formality that eventually, every person has to fulfill.
However, marriage is much more than signing a piece of paper. It is the first step towards a mature, grown life. It’s being there for a person, loving them and caring for them for all eternity. It is sharing a life, your future, your happiness and your sorrow with that special individual.
That is why it is extremely important to get to know your partner well before you decide to take the plunge. Have in mind that honesty and communication are the key principles for a prosperous and loving union.
Here are 11 essential things you need to ask your partner before you two decide to spend an eternity together by getting married:
1. Why Do You Love Me?
There comes a time in the relationship when we begin to feel confident enough to talk about all of our desires and deepest dreams. And one of the most common questions we usually ask our partners is “What made you fall in love with me?” or “Why do you love me?”
It is a question that reveals a lot of the person’s character, their choices, and preferences.
2. What Are Your Dreams In Life And Are You Willing To Adjust Them For The Sake Of The Relationship?
This question can reveal everything you need to know about your partner’s intentions.
It is important to understand that in a marriage, it takes two to tango. You have to be able to adjust your own sails for a functional ship.
So, if your partner is more goal-oriented and expects you to do all the adjusting, this could be a potential deal-breaker.
3. Whenever Things Get Tough, Do You Agree To Make Compromises?
It is important to get to know your partner as a person way before you explore their “lover” side. Because communication and compromises create the very core of a successful marriage.
If a person avoids making compromises for the sake of your relationship and keeps showing an “it’s my way or the highway” attitude, you shouldn’t be quick to tie the knot with them.
They might not be the one for you.
4. What Is Your Relationship With Your Family?
Your intimate relationship should be apart from the ones you have with your families.
However, unresolved issues with the family might easily become an obstacle to your potential marriage. Relationship counseling might be just the thing that could help with this type of problem.
5. Why Do You Want To Spend Your Life With Me?
Similar to the first one, this question has the power to reveal their deepest intentions and feelings about you.
And sometimes, you wouldn’t even have to ask. If they are the real person for you, their actions will speak louder than any word ever could.
6. Will We Be Able To Keep The Romance Alive?
I believe that a genuine and pure love will live forever. The passion will burn even brighter than before.
If you and your partner were meant to be together, and you feel the kind of connection that happens only once in a lifetime, the fireworks will never stop.
Because you’ll be there to keep the romance alive, for all eternity.
7. Do You See Your Future Self As A Parent?
As humans, we eventually seek for a person with whom we can spend our lives and eventually procreate. We search for that suitable individual who would fit into our puzzle and would be thrilled to bring youth into this world.
However, not all of us strive for the same things in a marriage. That is why one of the most important things you need to know about your partner is their opinion on having children.
8. Will You Continue To Grow And Strive For Greatness Even After We Get Married?
Marriage is all about sharing every part of your life with that significant other. However, it is essential to understand that a person should continue having hobbies and interests that are separated from that holy union.
9. Can You Commit To Growing Old With Me Instead Of Leaving Me?
If the person truly loves you and wishes to spend every minute of their life with you, they would be thrilled to spend their eternity and grow old with you.
This question can reveal their sincerest intentions about the course of your relationship.
10. Do You Believe That We’ll Be Able To Make Each Other Laugh Even After 10,15 Or 40 Years Of Marriage?
Most couples fear that the joy, the spark or the “je ne sais quoi” (a strange, alluring feeling about the person you like) in the relationship will eventually fade away.
This question might provide you with some info, but will never give you an absolute answer.
The only way to maintain those sparks, joy, and laughter even after a long time in a marriage is by keeping that flame alive. And that can be achieved with a lot of effort, time and pure love.
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