Have you ever wondered why in a sex-crazed society that puts the main focus on the adventures of “one-night stands” and promotes deliberate eye-candy on the TV screens you experience troubles to blend in?
You feel as though you are separating from the general masses that genuinely care only about “getting laid”. And you know how it is – the more the merrier.
Many people would rush out and call you frigid and asexual, but they’d be wrong. While you can’t get yourself around the idea of such open sexuality, you still have experienced the intense sexual attraction, but only to a person, you’ve grown close to.
So, what does this really mean?
Well, if by any chance you’ve recognized your nature in this description, you are what psychologists refer to as ‘demisexual’.
Unlike asexuals, people possessing a demisexual intimate nature experience sensations of sexual attraction, however, it happens only after they form a strong connection with a certain special someone.
If you are still confused, here are 11 clear signs so you can understand the nature of a demisexual individual:
1. FRIENDSHIP ALWAYS COMES BEFORE ROMANCE
In other words, there are no blind dates and meaningless flings.
So, you are most likely to fall in love with a person with whom you formed a valuable friendship. By knowing their genuine flaws and strengths you become aware of their pure nature and that’s the most important thing before you decide to step into a romantic relationship.
2. SEX ISN’T EVERYTHING
Some people are turned on by a simple touch on the leg, but you aren’t designed that way.
You have sexual desires, but they just don’t manifest in a form of uncontrollable horniness. The only time your sexual desires reach a boiling point is after you form a meaningful, emotional bond with someone.
3. CUDDLES FIRST, EVERYTHING ELSE SECOND
And just because you don’t want to engage in sex right away, that doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy the physical closeness.
You enjoy curling up in your partner’s nook and cuddle all night long. Being together and enjoying each other’s silence is something that means to you much more than a steamy sex session.
4. ONE-NIGHT STANDS AREN’T YOUR THING
You can never imagine sleeping with someone you just met half an hour ago.
While some people have no problem engaging in physically intimate activities with a different partner every weekend, you are repulsed by the mere thought of a stranger touching your body.
You exist to find that pure, inexplicably remarkable connection with another person.
5. LOVE OVER LUST
And again, love is the thing you must have in order to experience the ultimate lust.
Finding a person to be attractive won’t convince you to sleep with them. Things just don’t work that way. At, least not inside your world.
You have nothing against people exploring their sexuality without involving an emotion in the game, however, when it comes to your relationships you will never be able to separate those two apart.
6. YOU DON’T ALWAYS HAVE A HIGH LIBIDO
Sex is fulfilling and magical with a person you have deep feelings for, however, it is not something you would get easily addicted to.
You are happy to be a part of it, but you also understand that there are more important things in a relationship.
7. A KIND PERSONALITY BEATS GOOD LOOKS
If you had to choose between a smoking-hot appearance and a genuine, kind-hearted personality, you’d definitely go for the second one.
Charm can be deceptive, and beauty will eventually fleet, but a good heart… A good heart will live forever.
It’s not about who handsome you look, but rather it’s about what you carry inside your heart and soul.
8. YOU ARE NOT AFRAID TO COMMIT
While engaging in serious relationships, and discussing a future togetherness have some people running for the hills, you have no problem to make a commitment to someone you love.
For you, love is unconditionally giving and receiving. The only way to fall in love with someone is by sharing the deepest, most profound feelings with each other.
9. ADULT FILMS DON’T GIVE YOU THE THRILL
Watching how two people are “getting down to business” is pointless to you.
First of all, you don’t know them – that’s awkward. But, most importantly the fact that they have zero attraction between them, makes the whole experience just plain stupid.
10. YOU BELIEVE IN BONDING THROUGH A GOOD, STIMULATING CONVERSATION
An intellectual, and stimulating conversation with “a person after your own heart” is something that has the power to ignite intense and powerful feelings in you.
You believe that talking has the ultimate power to connect people to a magical level more than anything else.
11. FLINGS AND CASUAL AFFAIRS ARE OFF YOUR LIST
And when finally, you experience love, it’s the real deal. No meaningless flings, unnecessary flirting and casual affairs.
It’s either the whole package or nothing. Because to you, love is the most sacred of all human emotions. The only way to experience pure love is by exposing your soul and deepest emotions to a certain special person in your life.
Image: Mary Pavlova
