Individuals which possess an introvertive personality may seem like they live inside their personal bubble, but there’s so much more than just being quiet.
The only way to love an introvert is by understanding their need for space and accepting their peculiar nature.
Even if that means also accepting their little flaws and weird quirks. The thing that you find amusing and “okay” might not even come close to what an introvert needs.
If you have an introvert in your life, start taking notes because here are some of the things that will never make sense to an introvert no matter how you try:
1. Introverts avoid over-crowded spaces, by all means. It’s not that they aren’t interested in socialization, it’s because they’re not interested in socializing with just about anyone. All those loud noises drain their energy. Instead, they prefer the company of their close friends, which btw, vary from 2 to 4. Quality over quantity. Always!
2. Small talk is the horror of horrors. A dull, everyday talk with a random person you happen to know for only about an hour, makes you want to scream and run for the hills. Why do you need to hear about their sister’s husband who just opened his business?
3. They can’t live in a space inhabited by other roommates. It’s not that they don’t have friends. Their home is the only place where they can be at peace to hear what their thoughts have to say.
4. The “shy “etiquette annoys them. It is possible that you also share the general opinion about introverts. “They are just shy.” Well, it seems that you’re in luck. This article can give you the precise answer to everything that doesn’t make sense to them. Like for example, stereotyping them as shy and timid people.
5. Answering the phone is not their strongest suit. Guilty as charged. Message to all their loved ones: “Please don’t think we forgot about you or we don’t want to hear you. We need to do it in our own time and at our own pace.”
Sophia Dembling, the author of The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World, said “To me, a ringing phone is like having somebody jump out of a closet and go ‘BOO!’”
6. Interrupting their sacred time is a no-no. If there’s anything they consider as the most precious in their lives is their space. Physically and mentally, of course. So, when a person is trying to disrupt their perfect equilibrium, an introvert will do anything to protect their boundaries.
7. Sharing an office with everyone is exhausting. They need the absolute peace and quiet around them and in their minds as well. That’s why to them, getting anything done in a loud and chaotic office is a mission impossible.
8. Being the life of the party doesn’t excite them. I’m telling you if you plan a surprise party for your introverted friend or you just want to take them for a night out in the club, you should just stop it right now. They don’t enjoy being the center of attention.
9. And why would you want to spend Friday night out, bar hopping and boozing when you can enjoy the silence of your perfect home? It’s one of the things that they’ll never come around to understand.
10. Assuming that being an introvert is a bad quality is just plain ignorant and judgmental. People are not the same and they really shouldn’t be! Individuality and “weirdness” is what makes people stand out from the crowd.
We should celebrate that, not shame it!