One has to be more courageous to show their insecurities than to hide them, one has to be strong to think before acting rather than following a blind reflex. The power is in the heart and soul, not in muscles and in an immature mind.
Life can get heavy sometimes. And while we may think that we can’t endure the hardships that life brings, that is not true. We can, and we will endure them. And we will become stronger in the process. That’s how it goes.
Below are 10 brutal truths about life that you need to remember every time you feel like you cannot go through the day.
1. WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS
“You have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. I have no responsibility to be like they expect me to be. It’s their mistake, not my failing.” – Richard P. Feynman
You must realize that you cannot place your happiness and your worth into somebody else’s hands. Worrying about what others say about you is absolutely ridiculous and pointless. Live your life and don’t bother with the opinions of others.
2. YOU WILL FAIL MANY TIMES BEFORE YOU SUCCEED
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
Success is something that doesn’t come easy. You will fail. And you will fail a lot before you achieve success. And I believe that everyone hates failure, but failure is inevitable in the process of getting what you want because you’ll learn the best lessons in life when you fail.
3. DON’T THINK – DO!
“Do you want to know who you are? Don’t ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.” – Thomas Jefferson
You can’t just daydream about the life that you want to have. You have to get up and make it happen. Nothing worthy will ever come to you if you don’t take action and get it for yourself. It is your responsibility to create your own journey. So, don’t think about it – go and get it done!
4. EVERYONE YOU KNOW WILL EVENTUALLY DIE
Love your parents and treat them with loving care for you will only know their value when you see their empty chair.
We don’t think much about this when we are young. We believe that our parents will be there forever with us. The sad truth is, they won’t. So, make the most of your relationship with them while they are alive. Tell them how much you love them and how thankful you are to have them and try to spend as much time with them as possible.
5. PURSUING TEMPORARY FEELINGS IS THE ROOT TO ALL SUFFERING
“Many people think excitement is happiness… But then you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
Many people confuse happiness with euphoria, excitement, and joy. However, those feelings are only temporary as they are prone to fade. And if you constantly pursue these things, you’ll end up disappointed every time because these feelings don’t last forever. True happiness is inner peace and contentment with who you are and what you have.
6. LIFE IS POINTLESS WITHOUT GOALS
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” – Albert Einstein
If you don’t have goals and ambitions, you don’t have a direction in life. And life without direction is pointless. You need to figure out who you are and what is important to you. Focus on the present, and always, always set goals that are big enough.
7. YOU DON’T HAVE MUCH CONTROL
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” – Steve Maraboli
The truth is, we don’t have much control over anything in life. Just think about it, your hair and nails grow by themselves. Your heart beats without your control. You need to accept this fact that some things in life just happen and you can’t do anything about it.
8. MATERIAL THINGS DON’T DEFINE A PERSON
The best things in life are not things.
Lavish clothes, branded shoes, expensive cars, diamond jewelry… sure, they are great things, but they don’t give a value to your life or value to you as a person for that matter. What matters most is what’s on the inside of a person, their hearts, and souls.
9. CHANGE IS THE ONLY CONSTANT IN LIFE
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.” – John F. Kennedy
The only thing that is constant in life is change. Change is inevitable. You should learn how to embrace it and make the best out of every situation.
10. WORRYING IS USELESS
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit worrying whatsoever.” – Dalai Lama
Worrying never changed anything. It is a state of mind that is completely unnecessary. You should not waste precious moments of your life in worrying. The quote above from Dalai Lama says it all.