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You Don’t Deserve The Bare Minimum: You Deserve To Be Happy And Loved

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Unrequited love tastes like burned toast or like that acidic sensation behind your chest after drinking a freshly squeezed lemon juice. Or, you’re thinking, as you are dragging on your cigarette or watching it burn on your ashtray, maybe it feels like a migraine or a lukewarm coffee. Either way, you are right.

Now on that note, you don’t deserve someone who is not willing to give as much as you give in a relationship. Someone who guilt-trips you, but paradoxically, does the same things they blame you for.

You don’t deserve someone who doesn’t reply to your texts or who is lazy enough to pick up the phone and say that they are not going to show up for the night.

You don’t deserve someone who promises you the world but gives you nothing. You would be much better off without someone who is sucking your energy and your faith in love. Someone who is ungrateful and has no intention of changing anything.

Being in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship is technically not wrong, but it’s demoralizing and it’s a waste of time.

The fear of being alone is something we need to work on because when you think about it, being in a relationship that sucks, being in a nearly-there relationship is kind of being alone. You may have someone to show to the world, but what about you? Are you happy?

You don’t deserve the bare minimum; you don’t deserve an almost-there-but-not-quite-there-yet relationship. I mean what is that? Who even has the time?

I guess, the majority of us have been there. You know, when you can’t fall asleep at night waiting for a text, but nothing happens. When you are being neglected just because a video game was a lot more engaging or whatever. 

You deserve to have someone who will love you even if you don’t always look so “put together.” You deserve someone who never ghosts, someone who never fails to massage your feet after you’ve arrived home tired from work.

You deserve someone who never lets the romance fade away and someone who is willing to listen to you complain about the same thing for hours without getting bored.

You deserve someone who gives you a tingling sensation in your stomach and alters your senses, not someone who makes you despair and feel constant insecurity about where things are going.

Remember, you don’t need doubts and toxicity. Love should be simpler than that.

A shout out to all those thinking being alone sucks – it doesn’t! 

I’m not trying to be preachy or anything, but there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and just because you are currently single, it doesn’t mean that your status won’t ever change. Things happen unexpectedly, especially good ones, so don’t get all clingy to the first person you meet.

Take some time to see whether that person really deserves you before jumping into a relationship. Because an almost-relationship type of thing is below your standards and can potentially make you start hating the opposite sex just because of this one person. No, let me change that – not just a random person, a total douchebag. Yup, that’s more like it.

Instead of giving so much importance to fear, let’s twist the situation around. Let’s give freedom a bit of the spotlight. Freedom to explore, freedom to enjoy life according to our own rules, and freedom to choose. Being in a relationship is overrated, anyway.

Nora Connel