Many find this to be an exaggerated and controversial statement, but it’s true – you can truly tell a lot from the way a guy behaves towards his mother. After all, his mom is the first woman he makes a connection with.
In most cases, a man’s mother is the first relationship he forms with a woman. This is a relationship in which he learns not only how to treat women, but also their value. This relationship simply becomes the basis for every other connection he’ll make with other women thereafter.
So, ladies, if you’re about to start a new relationship and want to be sure that the man you’ve chosen is the right one for you – just watch how he behaves towards his mother.
If He Was Raised By A Nurturing, Loving Mother
Men who were raised by a kind, affectionate, supportive, caring, and loving mother will learn to treat his romantic partner in the same way. So, if your guy had a close, deep, and harmonious relationship with his mother, this means that it’ll be much easier for him to establish a similar relationship with you.
It won’t be hard for him to be compassionate, attentive, loving, and all the positive stuff you look for in a partner. With men who were raised by a nurturing, respectful mother, you’ll find yourself being treated with the same amount of kindness, respect, and dignity.
If His Relationship With His Mother Wasn’t That Close
Men that were raised by a mother who was emotionally distant and with whom they didn’t have a close, harmonious relationship will grow up having a hard time being open and devoted in their romantic relationships. They’ll still treat women with respect and kindness in general, but they’ll find it hard to commit to their partner. They’ll be scared to build serious, committed relationships.
Affection or love was not something that these men were used to receiving from their mother. That’s why giving love to another woman will feel strange to them.
So, if you’re in a relationship with a guy who doesn’t have a close relationship with his mother, know that you might be faced with a challenge in the relationship when it comes to getting him to express his feelings openly, to show you his vulnerable sides, and to fully commit to you.
Additionally, a man who grew up with an emotionally detached mother may expect you to prove your love to him since he might also have low self-esteem. However, it isn’t impossible for him to learn to believe in himself as well as love others and receive love – of course, accomplishing this will require both of you to put in a little bit more effort.
If He Dislikes Her
Men who were raised by mothers that deprived them of love or that mistreated them, or that were even aggressive towards them will grow up with a highly negative perception of women and see them as only a source of misery and pain.
Men who had a bad, troubled relationship with their mothers from an early age will grow up seeing women as their enemy. They’ll disrespect women, both those that they know and don’t know.
When it comes to their romantic relationships, they’ll disregard your feelings, needs, opinions, and desires, betray your trust in them, hurt you, and shatter your self-esteem. With this kind of man, you’ll never be able to establish a meaningful, deep, happy, successful relationship. Rather, it’ll be one in which you’ll find yourself getting manipulated, betrayed, and hurt time and time again since he simply isn’t capable of loving anyone.
If you’re in a relationship with a man like this, you need to understand that you are not the one to ‘fix’ or ‘change’ him. The only person who can change him is himself, and no one else. And he will change if he finds a way to make peace with his troubled, painful childhood and the mother that made it such for him and that deprived him of love and support.
It’s important to pay attention to how your man behaves towards his mother as well as the relationship he has with her. If he’s patient with her, treats her with kindness, compassion, and dignity, and treats you the same way, then know you’ve found yourself a keeper.
But, if you notice that he yells at her, talks badly behind her back, and doesn’t show her respect, then stay away. If a man couldn’t have problem disrespecting the woman who gave him life, then he certainly won’t respect you.
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