It seems to me that we tend to make more space for other meaningless things in life than ourselves. We’re constantly running in an endless circle, trying to please everyone, make everything work, pay our dues, listen to others, lend them our shoulder to cry.
What’s wrong with this picture? Why aren’t we in it?
We seem to do everything naturally when it comes to others, but when the time comes and we desperately need to rely on ourselves, we suddenly have no time to do it.
Why? Because usually, we’re too tired, exhausted from dealing with other people’s problems and reliving other people’s experiences.
Holding space for yourself is the most crucial things you can do for your personal self-growth.
It is making time for yourself and gaining the ability to finally feel every emotion deep inside of you, to express every feeling, to grow, to live and just get in touch with your true self.
It’s a magical, profound feeling. Because at that exact moment, you are capable of hearing your own needs, listening to what your body and mind says, and feeling the way, your soul vibrates.
It’s creating a powerful and unique type of connection. The most important one that we have with ourselves.
And what’s even more interesting, only you hold the key to unleashing your potential.
Here are 9 important ways of holding space for yourself:
1. EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS
Learn to love your flaws. We all have imperfections. But, that is a part of our human nature. It is something that defines us as humans. Humans who tend to make mistakes because they’re only made of flesh and blood. Humans who are governed by their emotions.
Accept your flaws. They are the best part.
2. LEARN TO SAY NO
Most importantly, don’t hesitate to say no when you feel like it.
Your gut will never lie to you. It is a natural defensive mechanism that has the ability to let you know what’s good and what’s bad for you.
Therefore, when something feels like an absolute “NO” … Say no.
You are the only creator of your destiny.
3. DEVELOP HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
And the best way to actually say no is by first developing healthy boundaries. That way you actually made yourself clear in advance.
Anyone else that just doesn’t agree with your boundaries and insists on changing them is not the person you want in your life.
4. CONNECT WITH YOUR INNER SELF
Get in touch with your spiritual nature. Practice mindfulness. Remember that you are a human being who needs love too. Especially self-love.
Allow yourself to really experience the world by broadening your horizons. Make time for yourself and do something you’ve never done, but really dreamt of doing.
5. LISTEN TO THE VOICE INSIDE OF YOU
It is true that in stillness, we truly get to meet and talk to our inner voice. Taking time to sit alone in silence and simply be will help you reconnect with your self and it will give you the chance to answer everything you’ve asking yourself lately.
6. REACH FOR SUPPORT WHENEVER YOU NEED IT
Making time for yourself is crucial for self-growth, but that doesn’t mean that you should condemn yourself to a life of solitude.
We all need someone we can talk to, a person who understands our soul more than we do, a gentle shoulder we can lean on and cry.
Don’t hesitate to reach for support when you need it. Compassion, love, and solidarity will make you even stronger to fight your own battle.
7. STAY TRUE TO YOUR SELF
Stay authentic. Stay unique. Stay different. It is the only thing that makes you YOU. Your flaws, your strength, your imperfections, your passions, your fears combined create the person you truly are.
So, don’t be afraid to show express your genuine nature. Have the courage to stand up and speak for yourself!
8. BE A GOOD PARENT TO YOUR INNER CHILD
It is important to listen to the voice inside of you, but it is much more important to let your inner child be creative and explore more of this world.
Don’t let this dull and greyish society suffocate you with its problems. Don’t waste away your energy in vain. Save some for yourself.
9. DEVELOP AND PRACTICE SUPPORTIVE RITUALS
Whatever calms you down and takes you to another dimension where you feel the most peaceful and serene, is definitely worth doing.
For example, I personally enjoy wandering the forests while pretending I am a lost, wood nymph. I enjoy reconnecting with the one universal source of all energy. With nature. I love hearing the complete silence and the sound of the breeze that gently caresses the leaves everywhere around me.