Empaths are drawn to narcissists like magnets and vice versa. The understanding and compassionate nature of the empath is perfect for the narcissist’s need for constant worship and admiration. Their connection is deep but toxic because the narcissist will keep on hurting and abusing the empath and the empath will keep on forgiving them.
We are told that opposites attract, but when it comes to a connection between a narcissist and an empath that statement is not true because they are attracted to each other for all the wrong reasons.
Narcissists are drawn to people they find useful to them. They want people that will benefit them greatly and satisfy their need for attention, admiration, and adoration. This means that empaths are their first targets. Why? Because empaths are their opposites.
While narcissists lack empathy and compassion, empaths are very sensitive and in tune with their emotions and the emotions of other people which makes them able to feel someone’s happiness or sadness as their own.
Empaths are like sponges who absorb the emotions and the feelings of others. This trait makes them exceptionally attractive to narcissists because, in them, they see a selfless person who will fulfill their wishes and satisfy all their needs and demands.
The toxic attraction that exists between the narcissist and the empath is destined to end in disaster. Because, while the narcissist sees the empath as loving, caring, loyal, and devoted, which is the true nature of the empath, the empath gets attracted to the narcissist’s false self. The narcissist at first presents itself as witty, charming, giving, and intelligent and they wear that mask until they get what they want from the empath. Then, they go cold, withhold their emotions, and begin with their abuse which baffles the empath.
When the narcissist wants to hook someone in, they will present themselves ad being attentive, compassionate, and loving. However, their mask will soon start to fall off. The narcissist first idolizes their target and sees the relationship as a perfect way to make them look good. But, their infatuation doesn’t last long because the narcissist sees everyone as unworthy and below them. So, when they stop idealizing their partner, they start punishing them for not being perfect.
And instead of leaving them when they drop their mask and show their true colors, the empath thinks that they should give more, be more, love more in order to heal the narcissist and save their relationship. It is very hard for empaths to believe that someone doesn’t have emotions and empathy and that’s why they have faith that with their love they can save and heal the narcissist.
Unfortunately, narcissists are people who love chaos and drama. On the other hand, empaths are looking for peace and harmony.
One of the narcissist’s ways of manipulating the empath is by not letting them know where they stand in the relationship and stringing them along. They give them hope by occasionally giving them compliments and be all-loving and caring to them. This makes the empath think that if they behave the right way then maybe they will turn the narcissist to the loving and caring person they were when they first met.
Empaths believe in the good in people. They understand that everyone has flaws and that’s why they are extremely patient with everyone, including the narcissist. Moreover, the empath can be long-suffering and in pain, but they will still hold on in the hope of turning the situation to the better.
Sadly, this push and pull relationship can be detrimental for the empath because it can form a trauma bond in their heart making them incapable of leaving the abusive relationship even if they want to regardless of the immense amount of hurt they are experiencing.
Empaths should never enter into a relationship with a narcissist. To do so, they should have firm and healthy boundaries in order to protect themselves from any type of abuse and from people who take advantage of them. They don’t need to become cold-hearted to protect their heart. The important thing is for them to realize that not everyone is as good as they are, and some people will never change thus they don’t deserve a place in their life.
Finally, empaths must be willing to walk away from anything and anyone that brings them pain without feeling sorry for them or trying to make them a better person because such people don’t want to change.