If you’ve been lied to by a loved one, you know how much it hurts. The betrayal of trusts lingers in your soul and sometimes you wish you never found out the truth.
Lies, regardless of the reason they are told, are almost never justifiable. Because, after one lie, all the truths come with a question mark. In a world when trust is so hard earned, one little lie can make it even more difficult to earn it back once it has been lost.
When it comes to love and relationships, there is a certain number of white lies that usually occur in romantic relationships… Lies like, “I’ll call you immediately as I finish this,” “I am thinking of you all the time…” and so on.
However, the biggest and cruelest lie that you can say to another human being is saying ‘I love you’ when you don’t have feelings for them. When you throw out those three words that hold very deep meaning, especially if they are not sincere, you will most likely hurt your partner’s feelings when they see that you are not actually in love with them.
Many people nowadays think that they can deepen the bond and commitment by saying these words early on in the relationship. However, they don’t understand the weight that ‘I love you’ carries, especially in the heart of those who are hearing it.
Moreover, the pain that comes from ‘undoing’ those words can be even bigger than the pain you thought you were protecting your partner from.
If your romantic partner says ‘I love you’ first and you are not still there, you can just express how much you care about them. Talk about how they make you feel and what your relationship means for you.
On the other hand, if you know that your relationship doesn’t have chances to move to the next level, then you should be honest and tell them how you feel, without ‘white lies’ and sugarcoating. And stop stringing them along.
Finally, if you lie only to get something out of your partner, then that’s the ultimate betrayal. It’s the cruelest thing you can do to another human being. It’s unethical and utterly cowardly. It’s deceit. Period.