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Real Love Means Accepting Someone And Growing Together, Not Changing Them

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Whenever two human beings start developing pure and genuine feelings for one another, without feeling pressured or having any expectation about where they’re going, something wonderful happens.

They fall in love with who they really are. 

There are no expectations, no obstacles, no bumps along the road, no obstacles, no hardships, no drama.

There’s only acceptance and respect.

As time flies by, the love that connects these beautiful souls only strengthens their bond and eventually helps them become the best versions of themselves.

Do you know why?

Because true love is more powerful than everything else you can imagine.

True love doesn’t see flaws, it sees strengths. True love doesn’t see disagreements, it sees compromises. True love doesn’t see obstacles, it sees challenges.

Where everyone else sees imperfection, true love sees a potential.

People who genuinely love each other don’t try to fix anything about their partners. They respect each other. They accept each other’s flaws, different opinions, fears, and insecurities. They look out for each other and stick together through thick and thin.

We’ve all heard about people who have wasted their lives on partners who weren’t good enough for them. People who desperately tried to change their partners and mold them into someone they desperately wanted to be with. 

Let’s face it. Love doesn’t work like that.

You cannot force it or bend it to your will.

If you have an irresistible urge to change the person you’re with, you don’t love that person. You are in love with who you want them to be. And let’s face it, if you cannot accept their true colors now, you will never do it. 

Love is about mutual acceptance. It is about unconditional trust. It’s about motivation and inspiration to move forward. It’s about constant, unreserved support. It’s about believing in the person next to you and wishing them all the best.

Love is sacrificing your selfish wants for the benefit of the person you love. It’s going with the flow. It’s compromising whenever things get tough. It’s accepting their different ideas and appreciating their peculiar traits.

It’s not changing the things that you don’t find appealing in your partner.

It’s exactly the opposite. It’s loving and cherishing those parts more than anything in the world because that is exactly what made you fall in love with them.

You may not understand what am I talking about, but that is fine. That only means that perhaps you need more time to experience the magic of true love.

Because when you do experience it and fall in love deeply, passionately and fiercely, you’ll know it.

You’ll know it because there won’t be anything about them that you would change.

You’ll love them for exactly who they are.

Flawed. Beautiful. Remarkable. Bruised. Incredible. Hurt. Brave. Wild.

Stephanie Reeds