There’s nothing more frustrating than trying to make a narcissistic individual take responsibility for their actions and behave like a decent, kind human being, especially when they happen to be your boyfriend/girlfriend.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist means being with someone who is incapable of feeling empathy and compassion. Someone who considers themselves to be better and more important than everyone else. Someone who is incapable of building healthy, strong, and happy relationships. Someone who is incapable of loving honestly, selflessly, and deeply.
So, if you happen to be in a relationship with a narcissist, I guess that you’re sick and tired of their behavior. You’re sick and tired of the constant gaslighting, the insults, and the harsh criticism. You’re sick and tired of constantly being made a scapegoat for their own mistakes and bad behaviors.
You’re sick and tired of dating someone who is controlling, manipulative, and selfish. Someone who never takes responsibility for their actions. Someone who has little or no regard for your needs and desires. Someone who disrespects your feelings and opinions. Someone who only cares about themselves.
You can no longer play their game. You’ve had enough of their crappy behavior.
Well, let me tell you something: You should’ve never started playing the narcissist’s game. Because you can never win it.
Playing the narcissist’s game means playing a game in which the only rules that exist are the narcissist’s ones. A game in which your opinions are never respected. A game in which you’re constantly manipulated and degraded. A game in which you’re made to feel weak, incompetent, needy, and worthless. A game in which your role is to feed the narcissist’s fragile ego. A game that you are not meant to win.
Because you can’t.
You can never win the narcissist’s game. Why?
Because even if by all logical opinions and standards, you’re the outright winner, the narcissist will never acknowledge it. They’ll never admit or apologize for their mistakes and bad behavior. Instead, they’ll do everything in their power to pin the blame for their bad actions on someone else and bolster their own fragile ego.
So, we can finally conclude that the only way you can beat the narcissist at their own game is by leaving it.
You quit. You leave. That’s how you win the narcissist’s game!