The worst part about being in a relationship with a toxic person is the fact that you are not aware that you are in one. You’re aware that you don’t always feel happy and fulfilled in the relationship, but you’d never perceive it as toxic.
Instead of perceiving the relationship as toxic, you see it as a challenge. You think it is your job to better it and make things perfect between you and your partner. You think you’d be better off in this relationship, although it’s toxic, than being single.
Some women can’t stand being in this kind of relationship and they choose to break up with their partners and move on. For those women that are lucky enough to meet a nice guy after a toxic relationship, this is a totally different experience.
Here are 7 things that happen when you meet a nice guy after a toxic relationship:
1. You think he is too good to be true.
After being in a relationship with a toxic individual, you don’t believe that nice guys exist. So, when you meet one, you think that he is too good to be true. You are expecting him to gaslight you, criticize you, and demean you. You are expecting him to blame you for every problem that may come up in the relationship.
But, every day he shows you that he is not like your toxic ex. He shows you that he truly loves you and cares about you. He shows you that he deserves your trust.
2. You think you’re going to fight all the time.
You think you are going to fight about everything with this guy all the time because constant angry arguments were a normal thing in your toxic relationship.
But, every problem that arises in the relationship is resolved on time. Because this guy doesn’t sweep problems under the carpet, neither does he blame you for things that are not your fault. Instead, he makes sure you two talk out every issue that may come up in the relationship.
3. You overthink everything.
You don’t think he means what he says. You don’t believe he can be honest and trustworthy. You think that he has hidden intentions.
That’s the reason why you overthink everything he says and does. You doubt his promises. You doubt his compliments. And you make unreasonable assumptions about him and doubt him, although he’s never given you any reason to question his feelings and behavior.
4. You push him away.
Your toxic ex-partner has led you to believe that you don’t deserve to be loved. He’s led you to believe that you don’t deserve to be treated with kindness, patience, and compassion. He’s led you to believe that you don’t deserve to be treated with affection and respect.
When you meet a nice guy after a toxic relationship, you think you don’t deserve him. You don’t think you’re good enough for him, so you push him away. But, no matter how hard you try to push him away, he’ll never let go of you. Because when a man is truly in love with you, he’ll never allow himself to lose you.
5. You apologize too often.
In your toxic relationship, you were made to constantly apologize, even for things that were not your fault. So, this guy will often hear you say, “I’m sorry.” And he’ll wonder what it is that you’re apologizing for. But, instead of letting you explain, he’ll do his best to reassure you that everything is fine. That you haven’t done anything wrong. That he trusts you and loves you. That you should always feel safe with him.
6. You begin to trust him.
You begin to see that he’s not like your toxic ex-boyfriend. You begin to realize that he deserves your trust. You begin to feel comfortable sharing your deepest insecurities and fears with him. You begin feeling comfortable sharing your innermost feelings and secrets with him. Because you know that whatever you tell him, he’ll never think you’re weak and worthless, like your ex did.
7. And for the first time in your life, you realize what true love is.
You realize that love is not supposed to be hard and painful. You realize that romantic relationships are not supposed to drain your energy and destroy your happiness.
You realize that you have never truly loved before. You have never felt what it’s like to be needed and wanted by someone. You have never felt what it’s like to be truly cherished by someone. But, all this has changed now. Now you know what it’s like to be genuinely and deeply loved by someone.