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I’m Done Living My Life For Other People, It’s Time For Me To Be Selfish


It’s a word that we all view badly. If you think of someone as “selfish”, you probably think that they’re evil, egocentric maniacs. Why does it have to be such a negative word? Can’t we choose to be selfish occasionally and still be good people? Why can’t we just look after ourselves and be “selfish” for a little bit?

I’m choosing not to allow myself to be ruled by what everyone around me wants. I’m done living my life for other people, it’s time for me to be selfish.

No More Waiting

I can’t sit around waiting for other people to be happy about my decisions before I can go out into the world. I want to decide where I go, what I do, and who I’m with without needing to consult someone first. These are my choices to make. They’re choices that affect only me, and I need to think about my best interests.

Waiting for other people has gotten me nowhere. It’s slowed me down and stopped me from achieving everything that I know I can achieve. I’ve spent years constantly waiting for the people around me, only to lose my potential in the process.

My Life, My Rules

Sometimes, I don’t want to go out and see people. I should be allowed to decide when I want to spend time alone. If I want to go to a coffee shop by myself without inviting someone, then I will do that if I know that it’s going to make me happy.

I’m not going to listen to what society tells me to do anymore. The clothes I wear, if I put on makeup or not, how I style my hair, all these things don’t concern anyone else except for me. I’m going to play by my own rules. I can’t waste any more time letting someone else’s opinions drag me down.

It’s About What Makes Me Happy

I’ve spent far too long following the path that everyone wants me to follow. I’m done. From now on, my life is going to be about doing what brings me joy and focusing on the things in life that I really love. Even if it’s as simple as having another slice of cake, I’ll have it if that’s what I want.

If I want to spend all my time writing or reading, or even sitting at home and organizing my closet, I’m going to do that. If I know that it will make me happy, then why should I do something else just because it will please someone? I need to look after my own happiness because if I don’t do it, who will?

I’ve Earned This

Life is f*cking tough, and there’s no pause button. You do what you can every day to be a good person and make the right choices. Every single day is wrought with hardships, both big and small. After all this time, I think I deserve to worry about me.

With every time I’ve helped someone else, every time I’ve tried my best at anything, any time I’ve spent my time on someone who didn’t deserve it, I’ve earned the right to be selfish. I deserve to think about myself a little bit more. It’s time for me to do what’s best for me.

Go out there and be selfish. Do what you want to do and make your own choices. Don’t live your life afraid of what other people might think of you. This is your life, and you’ve earned the right to be selfish every now and then.

Share this with your friends and family to show them that it’s okay to put themselves first sometimes.

Eva Jackson