If you happen to be in a relationship with a narcissist, know you aren’t needy or too sensitive. Know you aren’t weak or worthless. You’ve been told these things by someone who is incapable of feeling deeply the way you do. Someone who is incapable of feeling empathy and compassion. Someone who is incapable of loving the way you do.
You’ve been told these things by someone who considers themselves to be better than and superior to everyone else. Someone who is incapable of building healthy, strong, and happy relationships. Someone who is incapable of loving genuinely, selflessly, and unconditionally.
So, instead of believing everything your narcissistic partner says to you to be true, here are some things you should do:
1. Believe in yourself. Know who you are. Be more aware of your qualities and mental strength. Appreciate your talents, achievements, and successes more. Believe in your potential.
Because you aren’t weak or incompetent. You aren’t overly sensitive or needy.
You are smart and strong. You are more than good enough. And you deserve to be loved.
2. Rely on your support network.
Your family and friends are the ones who truly love you and care about you. They’re the ones who really want to see you happy.
So, don’t be ashamed or afraid to tell them what you’re going through in your relationship. Don’t be afraid to talk to them about the mental and emotional abuse your narcissistic partner has been subjecting you to. Don’t be afraid to share your problems and pain with them. Because they’ll always be there to attentively listen to you and try to help you overcome what you’re going through.
3. Set clear boundaries.
Instead of allowing the narcissist to think that they can treat you whatever way they want, let them know what behaviors you will and won’t put up with. Let them know the consequences for disrespecting your boundaries too.
4. Don’t let the narcissist blame you for things that are not your fault.
To avoid taking responsibility for their bad actions, a narcissist will do their best to lay the blame at your door. They’ll do their best to make you feel like you’re to blame for every problem that comes up in your relationship, for every hurtful word they say to you, and for every bad thing they do to you.
But, you must never let your narcissistic partner blame you for things that are not your fault. You must never allow them to convince you that you’re the one to blame for their own mistakes and bad actions.
Stand up for yourself. Confront them. Let them know you have no intention of tolerating their crappy behavior.
5. Don’t allow yourself to become mentally and emotionally exhausted.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can take a significant amount of energy. But, what you need to understand is that you need to invest a great part of that energy in yourself.
So, try to do something that you enjoy doing every day. Whether it’s listening to your favorite type of music, watching movies, walking in nature, cycling, cooking, or you name it, make sure you do it every day.
6. Be good to yourself.
Never blame yourself for not seeing the true face of your narcissistic partner before. Because narcissists are very skilled at wearing a mask. They’re great at messing with your mind and distorting your perception of reality.