If you think that you are being entirely sincere, kind-hearted, and empathetic, but you are still finding fake people appearing in your life, you might want to reassess your behavior.
There was a time in my life when I was constantly surrounded by fickle, manipulative, and selfish people. They enjoyed doing things that I truly didn’t care to do, they talked about stuff that I wasn’t interested in, and they didn’t get me.
Hanging around with them didn’t make me feel happy and fulfilled. Instead, it made me feel exhausted and lonely.
Yes, it made me feel exhausted since I had to pretend to be someone that I wasn’t so as to win their approval. And it made me feel lonely since they couldn’t care less about subjects which had meaning for me. I simply couldn’t connect with them.
So, the question is: How do you attract genuine people into your life?
Here are 8 ways you can do this:
1. Be positive.
Nobody wants to be surrounded by Debbie Downers and Negative Nancies. People who are constantly dampening your mood with negative comments and who are often making you feel bad about yourself are insufferable.
So, make sure you never become one of the above-mentioned types of people. Instead, be positive. Try to adopt habits that will help you remain positive even in difficult circumstances. When you’re positive, you signal to other people that you are sociable and friendly and that you are easy to be around.
2. Keep your promises.
If you promise someone that you’re going to do something, do it. If you promise someone that you are going to help them, help them. Don’t be irresponsible and unreliable. Fulfill your promises.
Because when you keep your promises, you attract genuine and trustworthy people.
3. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.
A lot of people are afraid to show their vulnerable sides since they worry about what others might think or say about them. But, the truth is that you can’t let someone get to know you unless you open up to them.
So, don’t be afraid to share your insecurities, fears, worries, and problems with other people. Allow others to understand your innermost feelings and see what you carry in your soul. This will help you connect with other people on a deep emotional, mental, and spiritual level.
4. Remember other people’s names.
One surefire way to lose someone’s respect and trust is to forget their name. This might appear unimportant, but people like hearing their name. So, the next time a person tells you their name, make sure you remember it. Because when you call someone by their name, you make them feel special, important, and cared for.
5. Ask other people questions.
Get to know the people you meet by asking questions about their lives. Try to find out what their interests, goals, likes, and dislikes are. By showing interest in someone’s life, you make them feel important and valued.
6. Give others your full attention.
When you speak to someone, treat them as if they’re the most important person in the world. Listen attentively to what they have to say to you. Show them that their words have meaning for you. Put your phone away and give them your undivided attention.
7. Smile more.
No one likes to be in the company of someone that seems stressed out or too serious. Such individuals ooze bad vibes and repel other people.
So, laugh. Share jokes with others. Laugh at your own expense, too. Smiling signals to others that you are a positive, cheerful, and wonderful-to-be-around person.
8. And last but not least, always be yourself.
Be who you are, not what those around you want you or expect you to be. Live your life in accordance with your own beliefs, values, and principles. Always be aware of your qualities, worth, and strength, and never let what others think of you undermine your self-esteem.