I’d rather be single than be with someone who doesn’t treat me with respect and dignity. Someone who doesn’t treat me with compassion and love. Someone who has no regard for my feelings and needs. Someone who doesn’t respect my opinions, desires, and decisions. Someone who is afraid to commit. Someone whose soul doesn’t match mine.
Here are 7 reasons why I choose to stay single:
1. I refuse to settle for one-sided relationships.
I refuse to settle for one-sided, poor relationships. Relationships that drain my energy and suck the happiness out of me. Relationships that don’t bring a sense of fulfillment and peace into my life. Relationships that don’t make me feel complete and whole.
2. Finding someone who is going to accept me and love me for who I am is hard.
No one is perfect, neither am I. I have my own annoying habits, quirks, and whims. I have my own insecurities and fears.
But, I also know that my weaknesses and imperfections don’t define my worth. And it’s hard to find someone who will be aware of this too. Someone in front of whom I’ll feel free and comfortable to be my true self. Someone who will understand and embrace my flaws. Someone who will accept me and cherish me exactly the way I am.
3. I refuse to settle for immature and irresponsible men.
I refuse to settle for immature and fickle men who never take responsibility for their actions. Men who are ashamed and afraid to admit their mistakes and bad actions. Men who pin the blame for their bad behavior on others. Men who hardly ever keep their promises. Men whose actions don’t match their words. Men who don’t invest time and energy in their relationships. Men who don’t understand the importance of commitment.
4. I’ve already had bad relationships in the past.
I’ve already been in toxic relationships. I know what it’s like to be with someone who takes you for granted. Someone who strings you along. Someone who doesn’t reciprocate your love. Someone who couldn’t care less about you. And I’ll never let myself be with someone like this ever again.
5. I want to work on myself.
It’s not that I can’t work on myself in a relationship, but I have more opportunities to do so when I am single. Focusing on self-development allows me to overcome my weaknesses, build my character, and figure out more easily where I want to be in life. It allows me to become the person I’ve always wanted to be.
6. I’ll never enter into a relationship if I’m not financially stable.
Before I enter into a relationship with someone, I want to be financially stable. Because I don’t want to depend on anyone for anything. And I’m willing to stay single until I succeed in that.
7. Last but not least, I’m happy with my life the way it is.
I don’t need to be in a relationship so as to feel fulfilled and loved. I already feel this way. I’m surrounded by people who genuinely love me and care about me. I have an amazing career and I fight for my happiness on my own. And most importantly, I know how to take good care of and love myself.